Women's blind date makes men feel embarrassed. Experts: take the initiative to speak and act tactfully

Hate to marry a woman to attend the appointment on time

To arouse suspicion

Miss Qu, who worked as a business manager in a financial institution in Hankou, has reached the threshold of 35 years old as a golden warrior this year. The experience of blind date is hard to count, but each time it ends in failure.

If the blind date is not successful for other reasons, it is all right. There is one reason that makes her difficult to accept. After a blind date failed, she asked the introducer for her ideas. Finally, I learned that because Miss Qu arrived on time for her blind date, the man felt that she was very anxious and not reserved at all, and therefore wondered if she had any problems. "The appointment should be on time. I don't blame them for being late. Why do they still think I'm early?" Miss Qu said wrongly. She recalled that she would arrive on time or even early for almost every blind date, but the man might be late. "I really don't want to leave a bad impression on the other party because of procrastination and delay. I didn't expect it would be too proactive to attend the appointment on time."

Women are not afraid to pursue

The man is afraid of anxious women

"Others say that women are embarrassed to pursue men. I think as long as they like it, they should seize the opportunity. Time is not waiting, and high-quality men are more difficult to wait." Miss Wang, who works as a civilian in a provincial unit, is more active than Miss Qu. At the age of 28, she believes that everything in modern society is fast paced, and she should take the initiative to catch up if she is accurate. Too reserved may miss a good marriage. She also said that her cousin was shorter and less educated than her, but she found a handsome husband by taking the initiative.

But the man is more defensive towards such anxious girls. Mr. Zhang, the department head of a private enterprise in Hankou, told the reporter that he was most afraid of meeting a girl who was too active during the blind date, which would make him feel insecure. Mr. Zhang said that if a woman is too active, he will feel what the purpose of the girl is or what her own shortcomings are. Mr. Zhang is 35 years old this year. He met a woman of the same age in the blind date last year. After meeting several times, the other side hinted at his marriage. Seeing that Mr. Zhang did not respond, the other party proposed to meet his parents at once, which finally made Mr. Zhang give up the relationship.

Attitude can be very active

Be tactful in words and deeds

For the phenomenon that women are more and more active in blind dates, while men still prefer to be reserved for girls, Gu Xiaoshu, a marriage expert, suggested that girls can be very active in mind when they are blind dates, but pay attention to tactful behavior.

Gu Xiaoshu said that today's women are more independent, proactive and aggressive in their work, which also affects their mentality in blind date. Some don't want to be leftover women, some don't want to be selected, and prefer to take the lead in choosing, so they are more and more active in dating. However, men have a natural desire to conquer. If the blind date is too active and active, men will slowly lose the interest and motivation to pursue. Therefore, when a woman meets an ideal target, remember to stop at the end of the day and move forward and backward appropriately. Of course, women can take the initiative to light the fire of love, but the best way is to draw a match and give it to the other party to continue to refuel. In other words, the woman should stimulate the man's interest and let him fight back.