Post Date December, 03 2023
Many families have superficial happiness. My family is no exception. My husband and I have a good job and income. In terms of material matters, our conditions are very good.
Moreover, my husband is a good man praised by everyone. He is warm, kind and caring for his family. He takes care of me meticulously, loves me and children. But it is such a "good husband", but the cheating again and again makes me feel like death. Since he cares for his family, why should he love others? For this reason, I broke my heart. For the first time, I forgave him for his disloyalty. For the second time, he was deeply involved in online love. I was desperate for our marriage, but thinking of children, I gave up the idea of divorce. People can not only live for themselves, but also have responsibilities and obligations. But with him, we lack trust. My husband has the intention of repentance, but what should I do?
Ms. Lin:
I understand your mood and feelings very well. Your husband's two-sided character makes you feel distressed and disappointed, and makes your life lose its place and direction.
But have you ever thought about what caused such a thing to happen? Give yourself some time to calm down and sort out your mood, and find out the real reason for your husband's multiple extramarital affairs.
You can try to communicate with your husband, sit down calmly with each other and listen to his depression and grievances. Of course, you can also give yourself a chance to vent your inner depression and worries. Give each other some time. If you are difficult to straighten out, you can ask our counselor to help you analyze together, let the counselor lead you out of the marital trouble as soon as possible, and do not easily destroy the marriage that they have managed by heart because of their helpless choice. Because while you are desperate and depressed, you believe that your husband is also suffering. You also have a lot of helplessness and bitterness. You need to understand and understand each other from a different perspective instead of blaming him.
Love is mutual and requires two people to take care of it. If you want, love can eliminate the gap between each other.
