What should I do if my ex-husband and I can't leave our ex-boyfriend after remarriage for two years

I divorced and stayed with my boyfriend I talked about for three years before, and then my ex-husband called me home. Now I have remarried for more than two years. Everything is OK. Since my ex-boyfriend found a girlfriend a month ago, I can't stand it. I send messages to him every day, but I don't want him to find a wife.

I want to go to divorce first and then marry him. He also doesn't want to say that he can't be sorry for that woman. We have been in love for more than 10 years since we realized it. I regret it now and want to continue to live with him, but he just doesn't want me. Now I think about how good he is to that woman every day. People who think about it are crazy. When we don't have that woman, we can meet and chat and spend the night, Now there is the woman, let alone stay overnight. He doesn't talk much. He is afraid of the woman's anger and said something that hurt me, but I just don't understand.

I think about him every day, which has seriously affected my life, but I can't help it. I want to break up and I can't bear it. My ex-boyfriend said that as long as I don't make trouble, he won't break up with me. But I just want to think that they will marry and have children in the future, and I'm not calm.

What a mess, Brother Shan, what do you think I should do? My husband doesn't know how to express himself. People can still have a house and a car. The man has nothing.

reply:

Perhaps, in your true heart, the balance of love always inclines to your ex-boyfriend. If it is true, I wonder why you love so firmly? Why have you been with your ex-boyfriend for three years, and then go back with your ex-husband? How can you blame your ex-boyfriend for refusing you when your emotions are so volatile. In the field of emotion, if you don't have a firm position, it's very sad. Emotion can't be too greedy. You can only identify one. Otherwise, you will eventually lose everything and get nothing.

I think you are too possessive. You are obviously a little suspicious of eating what is in the pot. Since you have made the choice to be with your ex-husband, you should not disturb your ex-boyfriend's life. He has no relationship with you. People have the right to pursue their own happiness and choose their other half. Why should you interfere with others! It's hard to say. Isn't it sick!

I even think you have some psychological problems. Now that you mentioned spending the night with your ex-boyfriend, I wonder if you have not been disconnected from your ex-husband since they remarried, and have some physical relationship with each other, or something? If so, I would advise you not to desecrate marriage and life so much. I hope you will abide by your own morality and know how to love yourself. Don't let abnormal greed harm yourself and destroy your happiness.

In fact, your contradiction and tangle are hard to deal with: your current husband has a house and a car, but he doesn't have sweet words and won't please you, while your so-called ex-boyfriend or lover, who is articulate and romantic, can meet your spiritual needs, but is physically destitute, so what you want most is to combine these two people, right?

But there is no such perfect thing in the world. You must make the right choice between the two, and then cherish and respect your choice as always. In my opinion, your ex-boyfriend will never love you, because your performance is not cute at all. At most, he treats you as an extramarital adjustment. His compromise in front of you also makes me look down on him. What should you do? I just hope you can be a woman I can look up to, that's all.