To help my husband make a comeback in his career, I took the initiative to throw myself in the arms of male netizens

Ten out of ten things in life are not going well. Life is like joking with you. Originally, the seemingly happy life of outsiders was disrupted by an accident, and my husband became depressed from then on. I also forced a smile on my face, and only myself knew the pain in my heart.

In order to live a better life, we took our children away from home and went to other places for development. However, it was not as good as we imagined, and the money we earned every morning and evening was not proportional. At this time, I became addicted to QQ chatting, and daily chatting became my way of relieving stress. I chatted casually with strangers because I didn't have to worry about making fun of them or being afraid of others knowing. The internet is inherently true, false, false, true.

For me, I never thought about infidelity before, and these two words are not allowed in my mind. Now I think about how ridiculous the reason is that infidelity is actually to help my husband. This was the initial idea, because I don't want him to fall down, I want him to continue to rise again. Later on, I met a man who was very chatty online. He said he was a wealthy boss. When he learned about my situation, he said he could help me and my husband. I naively believed it and took the initiative to throw myself in his arms. Of course, there is no free lunch in the world. His condition is to have my body and then he will invest in my husband.

Actually, it's really absurd to think about it! I live in guilt and self blame every day now, because our relationship was quite good before. What should we do? Please give me some guidance, thank you, teacher.

I am thirty-five years old this year and have been married to my husband for fifteen years. It can be said that we have been together through ups and downs, but now I want to divorce and alleviate my sense of guilt. I can't imagine what the consequences would be if he found out one day. I don't ask him to forgive me. In fact, our marriage had already experienced cracks in 2008, just mutual tolerance. I want a divorce, but I can't bear it. Although it's my fault, what should I do?

reply:

1. Many times, there is no shortcut in life. The so-called path of life is vicissitudes. Without going through a series of hardships, where can plum blossoms bloom with fragrance? And you, to put it mildly, are trying to make a comeback for your husband, helping him achieve his career, and sacrificing your own body. In fact, it's better to listen than to say. You may still not be willing to live a poor life with your husband, not want to live such a hard life, and be tempted by other people's money. In fact, you have been brutally beaten by your own innocence.

2. In fact, cheating is cheating, there is no need to find a grand excuse or reason for oneself. People are always wrong when they are wrong. They are not afraid of making mistakes, sincerely change, face reality, and repent.

3. I suggest that you do not seek refuge in the online and virtual worlds in the future. Although they can provide you with a habitat for spiritual relaxation, they are often full of various traps. People must live a down-to-earth life and not fantasize about pie falling from the sky. You should know that the best way for a woman to help a man is to silently be a warm hearted and wise woman behind him who constantly appreciates him, encourages him, and gives him love and care, rather than relying on the sidelines and principles to cause trouble for him. Women, don't be fooled by cleverness, otherwise you can only lift a stone and hit yourself in the foot.

4. After all, your subtext is that you are already tired of this man, otherwise, you wouldn't cheat and betray him. Since you are so tired of your marriage, don't harbor a sense of hypocrisy. Show your true face earlier. The more you pretend to pity this man, the worse it will only hurt him in the end. If you want to leave, feel better. Even if you are so entangled and uncomfortable, your husband may not be better off. If a marriage has already broken down and has lost the willingness to repair it, then why bother to compromise and compromise?