After marriage, she stood firm by her wife's family. After her career was stable, she wanted to pick up her parents to live with her, but she was treated coldly

I know my girlfriend's family. His father is in business and his mother works in the bank. My home is close to the countryside of the small county. Now I have just graduated, and I don't expect his parents to marry me. But my girlfriend is pregnant, and I don't want to give up. I don't have the heart to kill a chicken at ordinary times. This is related to the life of the child. I dare not easily draw conclusions. After thinking about it, I decided to go to my girlfriend's house to propose marriage, and her girlfriend gave me a crooked idea to pretend to be rich. I am a real boy, and I feel a little guilty when I do such things.

My girlfriend bought me a suit of clothes, a watch and a briefcase with her private money. I went to their house with the gift. His parents liked me very much because I was gentle. After dinner, they chatted with me and asked their parents what they did, how many people in the family, and their home address. I rehearsed with my girlfriend and reported to his parents. They were very satisfied.

After that, my girlfriend confessed to the fact that she was pregnant. Although the two old men were angry, they also suppressed their anger and set a date for marriage after seeing my sincerity to propose marriage. My parents agreed to meet at a time. I told my parents my secret in advance. My mother shook her head and said that I was immoral and would not help me round this white lie. However, I don't want to meet my two families. My parents are embarrassed. I honestly confessed to his parents, and promised to work hard in the future to give my girlfriend a good life.

Her mother's face immediately changed. She looked at me in a daze, and my face turned red. My girlfriend's father is a man who has experienced a lot of things. In addition to being surprised at this kind of thing, he still controlled his emotions. He said something to me with great sincerity: as long as I treat my girlfriend sincerely and follow him, he will agree to our marriage. I was very happy to hear that. Not only did I get a girlfriend, but also I got a job. At that moment, I felt very lucky.

The marriage was held as scheduled. After the marriage, I worked hard with my father-in-law. After my efforts, I stood firm and earned my own bucket of gold. My father-in-law patted me on the shoulder, boasting that I had a good eye and didn't misjudge anyone. With the money I have earned over the years, I bought a house and a car, and the rest paid tribute to her parents.

I think of my parents, who have been busy with their work these years and seldom come home to reunite with them. Now that I have a foothold in this city and have my own house, I want to take them to live here. I told my wife my idea, but she rejected it directly, saying that it would cause conflicts between my wife and my wife, and that they were accustomed to living in the countryside and would not be accustomed to the life in the city. What makes me sad is my mother-in-law. This proposal makes her hate me very much. She rolls her eyes at me when she sees me.

When I think about their attitude now, I feel cold. Those are my biological parents. How can they treat them with such attitude. It's too disappointing.

Reply from the consultant:

Hello. In your career, you should be most grateful to your father-in-law. He is your Bole, the noble person in your life. If he had turned down your marriage as the head of the family, you might not have such brilliant achievements today, let alone buy a house and a car, and pick up your parents to live with you. You really should pay tribute to him.

Now, if you ask to take over your parents, you can give them good respect. Your wife's reaction is a bit strong, but it is not unreasonable. However, there is a saying like this: Love the dog and the dog. The biggest reason is still your mother-in-law. If she is no longer beside your wife and gossips, your wife may not be so unfeeling. Don't feel cold because of their decision for the time being.

First of all, you should ask your wife's opinion and speak your mind without affecting the feelings of the husband and wife. Secondly, you should ask your parents' opinions on whether they are willing to live with you in the city. The simplicity and freedom of the countryside make them feel at ease. Maybe they will not come to such a stressful and noisy place as the city. Maybe the countryside is the most suitable place for them to support the elderly. If you really miss them, you can take them over.

Don't put your own ideas on the other side, and it will be uncomfortable to be uncertain. A better life can only be achieved when couples are united.