Post Date December, 02 2023
Overnight, many men "suddenly become middle class". If I remember correctly, the word "middle class" was completely like a flood after a special issue of "China: The Birth of an Emerging Class" was published in a weekly magazine last year.
In the frequent appearances on the Internet and other media, people have never been able to discuss the standard of "middle class" as easily as they are now. The discussion content involves annual income, car, housing, education and entertainment, lifestyle and even weight in detail.
But no one seems to mention what will happen to a man's love when he is middle class. Perhaps, the word "middle class" is only closely related to material, and other words are probably not so important.
I'm talking about the middle class here. There is no doubt that there is still a considerable distance between the middle class man and me - if we want to measure it by the middle class standard of developed countries.
But I believe that many men covet the middle class as much as they eagerly look forward to an affair. Although the surface is silent, in fact, that restless heart has been running all the way to the middle class.
A website once said that by 2005, China's middle class will reach 200 million people. According to the standard of middle class in China, this does not seem to be a very exaggerated figure - maybe one day I will take a cup of coffee and sit on the balcony, see the car parked downstairs through the window, count the number in the passbook, and suddenly find myself "suddenly middle class".
If, as the article said, China's middle class will reach 200 million as scheduled, then this is really not a small number. From now on, we have to pay attention to their love life.
As we all know, the saying that "love is firmly based on material" is increasingly recognized by many people. In the era of material scarcity, we regard poor love as romance. Facts have proved that behind this Ah Q-type self-deception view of love, we hide our thirst for material.
We are finally middle class. Generally speaking, we are finally rich. We can send flowers, open a party, and no longer need "thousands of roads at night, grinding tofu at dawn". Will our love lose its simple, sincere and lasting nature?
Men become bad when they have money. The ease, confidence and ease of men after middle class are likely to become the catalyst for "bad". In terms of age, most middle class men are between 30 and 40 years old. Through the experience of love and marriage, they should have a rational understanding of feelings, which is basically the responsibility and obligation in the traditional sense.
The change in lifestyle, attitude and emotional expression brought by the middle class to men will be huge, and the two will form a fierce collision. At this time, it is not new to see through the collapse of life to be a new man, or to be calm and go their separate ways. The question is, as a middle-class man, what should their ideal love state be?
This is how I understand the love of a middle-class man: after having a rich material foundation, he is more qualified to assume the role of a parent, and gain pleasure and sense of achievement from it. Responsibility and obligation are not burden but enjoyment.
For marriage, middle-class men should have a deeper understanding, and also have the ability and mood to create a style of life for love. The dual wealth of material and spirit will remove the impurities such as fickleness and ambition in the nature of men, and become mature, stable and warm - for most married and unmarried women, such men have fatal attraction.
