Unmarried and pregnant parents discuss marriage, and when it comes to dowry money, boyfriend's family cheats, I angrily mention breaking up

My boyfriend and I are in a free love relationship. At the age of 26, we are getting married. Originally scheduled for October 1st next year, my unexpected pregnancy accelerated the wedding date. Pregnancy, for the woman, is inevitably subject to gossip. My boyfriend came to my house in time to propose marriage, blocking those idle people who chew their tongues. My parents are very practical people, and everything they do is done according to the rules. On the day of the proposal, my father set up a banquet and invited relatives as witnesses.

My boyfriend drove over, with his relatives sitting in the car. My parents greeted him with a joyful expression on their faces. At the table, my dad had two more drinks and talked a lot. He was already very angry about my pregnancy, but he didn't express his opinion. My mother always scolded me for not being reserved. Taking advantage of the alcohol, my dad gave my boyfriend a lecture, saying that he bullied me and made me unprepared to conceive a baby. I glanced at my boyfriend, he didn't speak, only nodded and smoked.

Immediately after, my dad mentioned the dowry money for my marriage, and regardless of whether I am pregnant or not, the process that should be followed still needs to be followed. My father asked for a dowry of 100000 yuan, but on our side, 100000 yuan is considered moderate. My boyfriend's family conditions are good, and both parents are teachers. It is reasonable to say that this money allows them to spend it. My parents will also deliver me generous dowries, and at this price, they shouldn't be embarrassed. I looked at the boy with great anticipation, and his face twitched. He smiled and said, 'Go back and discuss with your parents before visiting at the door.'.

I saw them off, and I look forward to hearing back from my boyfriend. As a result, after waiting for many days, no one from the man came. Send a WeChat message to his boyfriend, who refuses to be in another city. Waiting left and right, unable to wait for his reply, I went to my boyfriend's house. As soon as I entered the door, I felt their family treat me coldly. They simply greeted me and I entered my boyfriend's room. After lunch, I was particularly tired and took a nap.

When I woke up and went to the bathroom, I found the three of them discussing something in the room. They were supposed to go over and participate, but when I heard a few words, I was stunned. It was my mother-in-law's voice that said, "Once a woman gets pregnant, she won't be in charge anymore. Her belly grows bigger and bigger day by day, and she can wait, but the child can't wait. After cooling down their house for a few more days, the dowry money will not be given, and all the savings will be given to you. My boyfriend nodded by default and did not respond. And the father-in-law's reaction was, 'Don't go too far, it's not easy for someone to have a daughter,' and he was severely criticized by his mother-in-law.

I stood at the door feeling particularly awkward. It turned out that my delay in answering was a trick to escape the dowry money!!! How can we get married in the future when we are all so stingy now? My anger surged up in waves, disregarding the girl's image, standing at their doorstep and shouting, wanting to marry me without paying a penny. There was no door. I don't want the child anymore, I will take it out. We broke up, and I was blind and took a liking to you. After listening to me, their family looked at each other in surprise. I slammed the door and left them all to reflect.

As soon as I walked out of the door, tears came down. Emotion doesn't mean you can let go of it, but if my boyfriend is so indecisive, how will I live my future?

Reply from Weiqing Consultant:

Throughout history, the dowry for men and women is indispensable. As for the number of issues, it depends on how the two families negotiate. The approach taken by the man's family is indeed inappropriate. They believe that if you are pregnant, you will lose your price, remain silent and indifferent. When you take the initiative, they will have a chance to win. The main reason for this situation is that your boyfriend has no independent opinions. If he takes you seriously, he will definitely not put you in this awkward situation.

Your sudden appearance disrupted all their strategies, and you proposed to break up, probably in a moment of anger. But if they don't reflect on themselves, personally, they don't think it's meaningful to continue. Whether this relationship goes or stays depends on the performance of their family. It's not too late to make any plans then. During this period, just be yourself.