Post Date December, 03 2023
Three years ago, after my child was weaned, I breathed a sigh of relief. The landlady next door said, 'It's been a long time since we played cards. Come and play with us, so I went over.'. Originally, I didn't want to call too late. My husband called me twice and I said I would go back at 12 o'clock. However, because one of my girlfriends had lost a lot and wanted to win back, I requested to call all night. My phone is running out of battery. I feel like it's dangling around my neck, making it uncomfortable to touch the cards. So I threw it aside, and the battery may have come loose. It wasn't until I finished playing cards the next morning that I realized my phone had turned off. I turned on the phone again and my husband's phone came in. He didn't get angry at the time, just said he didn't sleep all night and was worried about something wrong with me.
If only he had complained and questioned at that time, but he didn't, he just kept everything in his stomach. Not long after, he proposed to divide the room between husband and wife because I wanted to coax the children to sleep and he wanted to rest better. I didn't pay any attention until a year later, when I found some warm messages on his phone, I realized that my husband's heart had changed.
Doubtful Husband's behavior is strange. On the day he went to play basketball without a phone, I saw 8 consecutive text messages sent to him, asking where he was and why he didn't reply to her affectionately. After he returned, I smiled and told him that he had many text messages, and he panicked and deleted them all. So we started arguing, and he said I only allowed the state officials to set fire and not allow the people to light the lights. I couldn't understand and asked him what he meant. He then said that one year ago that night, when I went out and had an affair with someone else, he thought I was dirty and separated from me.
Originally, he had been checking my underwear and found that on the day I played cards, my pants had a lot of secretions, so he decided that I had done something bad. I told him that it was normal for a woman to have more vaginal discharge after sitting for a long time and staying up all night. He didn't believe it and decided that I had betrayed him. I slapped him in the face in a fit of anger.
I think his suspicions are related to his previous marriage history and our age gap. He is 43 years old, 12 years older than me. He got divorced once, and the main reason for the divorce was on his wedding night when he discovered that his wife was not a virgin. This has always been a difficult knot for him to open, and no matter how wise and patient his ex-wife is, he ultimately cannot forgive her for "deceiving" him. He eventually divorced his wife when his eldest son was 7 years old.
After someone introduced us to each other, his persistent pursuit of me was touching. Although I also felt that he was a bit stubborn in his appearance and gentle in his interactions, due to his perseverance, I eventually married him and gave him a son. But gradually I realized that his personality was a bit different from ordinary people, sometimes appearing very stingy and extreme. He took over his eldest son, who was born to his ex-wife, and lived with us, but his eldest son was not as good as me.
He's always sarcastic about my past. Maybe I had sex with someone before marriage, which has also become a concern for him. When I was studying at university in Zhejiang, I had a very brief relationship with a radio announcer. I told him before marriage, but I didn't expect him to use this as a pretext when arguing in the future, saying that I am not an ordinary woman and have had intimate relationships with people since I was unmarried. But I believe that as long as I don't apologize to him after marriage, it's loyalty to the marriage. But he always exposes people's scars, which makes me very disgusted. I have a bad heart and was once described by him as almost in shock.
Although I have different emotional concepts, I am grateful that he is a good husband in life, very family oriented, has a good character, and is upright. Therefore, as long as there is no conflict, I am still willing to maintain this marriage, and I am also very kind to his and his ex-wife's children. On Mother's Day, I reminded my eldest son to send a greeting card to his mother.
Now that we have reached this point, there is no point going further. Last month, we signed a divorce agreement, which stated that for the sake of our two children, I will come back over the weekend and both parties still maintain a family on the surface. I was a bit hesitant and nostalgic at first, but recently I realized that my husband has gone out of his usual way and become very anxious to end this marriage. I feel like he is already dating other girls outside, so I feel a bit unbalanced again. Why do I want to be so handsome and promise him not to have a house or a car, just to leave the house? I didn't do anything wrong, why did I leave?
Private Talkshow Notes: Ignorant concepts and terrifying persistence. Wang Hua's current mood is very contradictory. She not only resents her husband's paranoia and suspicion, but also feels a bit helpless. It is undoubtedly more difficult to persuade and change the marriage and love concepts of men with a "virgin complex" than to move away from a mountain. But in addition, her husband's kindness in daily life also made her feel a bit nostalgic, especially when she found out that he was preparing for his next marriage, which caused her pain for no reason.
From this perspective, Wang Hua's attitude towards divorce was not very firm from the beginning, and now the "big enemy" is facing a complete collapse.
Due to a misunderstanding of turning off her phone while playing mahjong, her husband misunderstood her and distrusted his wife. This incident was initially Wang Hua's fault. As a wife and mother, she shouldn't have left her husband and baby behind and played mahjong with friends all night long. But these occasional mistakes in life are not enough to destroy a family.
(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)
