Post Date December, 03 2023
In April of this year, I accidentally discovered on my wife's QQ that she had sex with an ex boyfriend last year. My wife and I have been together for 4 years. That time we had a big argument, and my wife was the stubborn kind. We open a small shop and our business is average. She sleeps until 12 o'clock every day and is very lazy. That argument alarmed both parents. We have a 3-year-old daughter. She has no remorse at all, no intention of doing anything wrong. For the sake of my daughter, I forgave her that time and she promised not to contact that person.
The other day, while she was sleeping. I play games on my wife's phone. Another netizen (her hometown courier) sent her a rather ambiguous message. I used my wife's tone to chat with him for a long time. I tricked him out of having sex with this man twice in May, and he had regular contact. My wife changed the man's phone name to the name of a good friend of hers. We had another big argument yesterday. This time she just didn't speak and slept in the dormitory for two days.
I feel really tired from spending the past few years with her. I really don't know what to do now, I really don't want to live any longer. I hope the teacher can give me guidance.
reply:
Hello friend. From your confidences, it can be seen that your wife is lazy and lecherous. It's really frustrating for a man to marry such a woman. Now you really regret being blind in the first place. It seems that no matter when, choice is always greater than effort! Here, I advise all men in the world to keep their eyes wide open when marrying a wife in the future, and never choose to eat without hunger. If one is not careful before marriage, one will suffer after marriage.
For such a woman, if you want her to repent and turn over, you must make her pay a high price for her disloyalty, otherwise, she will not change her ways and return to normal. Your easy forgiveness will only allow her to constantly cheat. Although your daughter is young, she cannot easily let go of her frivolity just because of her child. If this continues, your daughter will also be led astray by her.
I think you should give her a ultimatum this time, and tell her that you can't tolerate her infidelity. If you want to, you can live well. If you don't want to, you can go away completely. I will never condone you again. If I discover your scandal again, you will immediately leave this house for me, leave the house in your pure body, and walk as far as it is. You can draft an agreement with this content and give it to her. If you agree, sign it, and if you don't agree, divorce. See how she chooses!
A man should always be able to hold up and put down, be cautious, but not hesitant; I can tolerate making mistakes for a while, but I will never violate principles and bottom lines.
