My husband cheated and I chose to divorce, but after my third child was four months pregnant, he wanted to remarry me

I am 30 years old this year. My husband and I have known each other for 6 years and have been married for 4 years. However, we have now divorced because he has a third party and their relationship is very complex, with financial interests involved. The woman has good financial conditions and loves my husband very much, but my husband and I are still reluctant to let go of this relationship and want to remarry.

After all, we also have children, but now that the woman is also 4 months pregnant and insists on giving birth to the child to tie my husband. I want to give up our relationship and hope they can live well, but my husband is not letting go of me and even threatening to take care of the child with me. I don't know what to do?

I don't want to get entangled in this complex emotional life, but for the sake of my child, I also want to give them a complete home, so I am very confused. Do I choose to stay or leave?

Reply:

From what you confided, your husband may not love that mistress. He only developed an extramarital affair with her out of exploitation and exchange, that is, he used the woman's love for him in exchange for the money he wanted. Between love and money, your husband has chosen greed. He cannot resist the woman's financial temptation, nor can he give up his relationship with you. That's why he wants to remarry you. It seems that his heart is still with you and your child, and that woman is the most pitiful. She is just the object of your husband's exploitation and deception.

In fact, that woman is not only pitiful but also foolish. Of course, her pitifulness is not worth sympathizing with, because a pitiful person must have something despicable; And her foolishness lies in her attempt to tie a man down by giving birth to a child. If a man doesn't love you enough, if a man is ruthless enough, what is a child? In his eyes, it's just one of his own sperm, and he can take root and sprout anywhere he wants. It can be predicted that once your husband remarries you, he will also be prepared to abandon that woman, including abandoning his own illegitimate flesh and blood.

For you, you may secretly enjoy your husband's return and remarriage request in your heart, or you may indeed feel very entangled and in a dilemma. How to say that this man is indeed not a very good man. Objectively speaking, he is not worth the two of you falling in love with him. He has violated the precepts of disloyalty and injustice, is not loyal to his emotions, is not responsible for his family, has no bottom line for himself, at least in his eyes, money and interests are above all else. He acts so selfishly, which demonstrates his selfishness. For this, you must think carefully. If you choose to remarry him, it is difficult to guarantee that he will continue to sell his feelings for the sake of profit in the future. Moreover, he and that woman became pregnant again, and the woman particularly cared about him and had to give birth to a child to tie him down. So, can your remarriage be resolved again? After all, that child is also his flesh and blood, and that woman will not give up her entanglement with him. There will undoubtedly be unpredictable disturbances between you in the future, and you must be prepared for this thought.

Also, if a man really cares about his ex-wife and wants to remarry and have a good life, the most important thing is to use integrity to redeem his wife's forgiveness, rather than using any threatening means to scare others by seizing child custody. Isn't it not underestimating and insulting your intelligence? If you really obey, then we are too lowly and humble. Besides, we can't be scared by his move. You should know that in marriage, he is the fault party and the cheating party. What qualifications and face do he have to negotiate with you? No matter from a moral or legal perspective, he has no voice. Therefore, you must not easily fall for him.

As for what you said, for the sake of children, this is a common weakness and weakness among women in the world. Can women choose to unconditionally lose their bottom line and dignity for the sake of children? Can one kidnap their own happiness in life for the sake of children? Can we just ignore the grievances and seek justice for the sake of our children? Women should always understand that maintaining the surface integrity of marriage is far less meaningful for children than establishing a truly harmonious and harmonious marriage. If a child grows up in the tomb of a marriage without love, it is better to stay away from this unfavorable environment, because it is actually detrimental to the healthy growth of the child.

So, whether to choose to leave or reunite, leave the power to yourself, but you must think carefully in your heart whether you still have confidence in this man and whether you still have love. If not, please do not blindly let yourself make a decision.