Post Date December, 03 2023
I am 26 years old, 1. 64 meters tall, and weighs 135 kilograms. My boyfriend is 27 years old and has an average appearance. He is 74 meters tall and weighs 128 kilograms. We have been in love for a year, and at first we were very good. Later, because he always lied, we quarreled several times. Recently, he told me that he was breaking up. I found him watching movies, eating, singing, and opening a house with other girls. At first, he asked him if he would admit it, but later admitted that the girl he had pursued was a girl he had never promised him before. Later, we fell in love, and the girl also fell in love. Recently, the girl broke up, and they began to get in touch again.
He told me that he had enough time with me. He felt tired and said that I was spying on him. I usually called him, sent WeChat messages, and sometimes lost some temper. I knew I was sometimes headstrong, but I didn't apologize to him. Instead, he treated me like this. I wasn't willing to do it, and I also detained him, but he had to leave. Obviously, he betrayed our feelings and asked me to keep him. He told me that I was fat and made me lose weight. What else would he say if I lost weight in two months and he invited me to dinner? I wonder what he really thinks? "The thought of him opening a room with someone else made my heart ache. He also said that there could be no result with that girl, and he also told me to sleep well. Don't be paranoid. Please ask Brother Shan for help and advice. I am also trying to lose weight now.".
"We've broken up now. He called me once and asked me how I felt."? On Christmas Eve, he also sent me a small red envelope to buy an apple. Now it's hard to think of him. After all, I've been together for one year, and I'm a sentimental person. I can think about things, but I still feel uncomfortable. "He was really good to me at first, but then he changed. He said that when we quarreled, it changed. Is there any possibility of this relationship getting back together?"?
reply:
In real life, some love is used to recall, some love is used to hold hands, some love is used to introspect, and some love is used to break up. Perhaps, your love is for breaking up and introspection. Don't feel unhappy or sad about it. In fact, many relationships are used to experience, and only after experiencing them can you know the ups and downs of this relationship, and only then can you cherish those that are worth cherishing and that you once had.
Objectively speaking, your boyfriend actually didn't love you that much from the beginning, you're just a product of his seeking second best. At least, compared to the girl he once chased, you lost to that girl. "You think he was very kind to you at first, but it's useless. At first, anyone who is with someone will behave well because of the role of novelty or in order to get the other person. If it's not good for you at first, will you promise to be with him?"? You know, treating you well for a long time is really good. "Your boyfriend is obviously not. He can casually lie to you and open a room with other girls. Do you think you have any status in his mind?"? Does he have the slightest respect for you?
"He thinks you're fat and wants you to lose weight. He thinks he's tired of being with you, but it's all his excuse, and behind that excuse, he doesn't love you enough.". Why did he choose to be with you in the first place? That's because the girl he liked didn't like him and he didn't have a choice. "Now, betraying you and leaving you is because the goal in his mind reappears, and he keeps in touch with you after breaking up with you, which is driven by selfish intentions to leave a way for himself.".
"I think your boyfriend is a bit of a scum, at least he doesn't know how to cherish, he doesn't know how to keep himself clean, and he doesn't have a loyal and dedicated relationship. This is also the fashion for a boy to fall in love with. Isn't it even more frightening after marriage?". Therefore, it would be a good thing to see his true face at this moment and leave him as soon as possible. If we only found out about him after entering into marriage, wouldn't it be even more disastrous. Although you must have your own problems, and you may need to improve yourself to be good enough and constantly beautiful, these cannot be excuses for him to betray and hurt you. For this principled injury, you must keep yourself awake.
Since you are already in a breakup state, why should you let yourself feel so uncomfortable about it? Moreover, he is not worth your sorrow for him. As a girl, she should maintain her sufficient baseline and dignity, and not lose her principles of being a person. Some things cannot be obtained by striving for them, especially emotions. The more you force them, the farther away they are from you, and the easier it is to hurt you.
