Married a strong woman who is five years older than me. After marriage, my life was depressed, which made me fall in love with a young girl

My wife and I met in the company. She was my leader at that time. I was just an ordinary employee. Only in meetings will there be a little overlap. It is difficult to communicate with each other in language at work. She looks very beautiful in her early thirties. She seldom looks at her smile during work. She looks very cold and makes people feel intimidated. Privately, his colleagues called him "Nun extermination".

I never thought that my life would intersect with her. She is too mature to stand with her, inexplicably nervous. With outstanding performance, I was promoted to be a department director by the company, and my work was directly connected with her. After several contacts, I found that she was meticulous and admirable.

Since that time we were familiar with each other, she drank with a group of old men in order to make a deal. Wine is the best way to show sincerity. She was relieved when the other party agreed with our list. When I went out of the hotel, I vomited loudly. I sent her home. Upon enquiry, the house she bought was actually in the residential area I rented.

After this incident, she had a good feeling for me and would pick me up when driving to work. When we get off work, we will have dinner together. The two people just let it go and walked together. She is five years older than me, and this relationship is not appreciated by her family. My parents think that she is older than me and has a higher official position. If I marry her in the future, I will be oppressed by her. I married her resolutely.

After marriage, we were very low-key. In the company, I still respected her as the leader. At home, she cooked for me, washed clothes, and looked like a good wife and mother. But this kind of day lasted less than a year. Her outstanding performance in the company has risen to a higher level, and I still stay where I am. She changed and used the way she treated her subordinates in the company at home. They are shouting at me. We originally planned to have a child this year, but she went back and said that it was a rising career. Everything is up to me. Even every time I make love, I have to wear a condom

I can't stand her strength. During her business trip, I went to the bar to get drunk. While drinking, I met a girl. I was touched by her frankness. I confided a lot of my heart to her, and she even felt sorry for tears. The more I talked, the more I drank, and I was unconscious. She opened a room for me in the hotel and stayed with me all night. I was very moved. After that, I felt that I had left my wife and my charm remained. It was really depressing to be around her.

From this girl, I found the confidence of a man. We are in love. I want to divorce, but I will leave the company after divorce. After all, my wife is my leader. How can she make me feel better in a company after divorce, so I will plan my career from scratch. I'm very confused. What should I do?

Reply from the consultant:

It is not surprising that modern women live independently of men and have a career of their own. She is your leader outside, and is equal to you at home. The reason for taking charge of her job has made her have a sense of condescending self-confidence and formed a habit. At home is no exception, and she is still high. In this way, your majesty as a man will be suppressed by her, and you will have all kinds of ideas if you can't vent.

You think things too complicated, which will cause you to cheat today. You don't want to be suppressed. You can communicate with your wife. Marriage needs to be managed by both of you, not by camouflage, obedience, and long-term. Divorce, you worry about starting your career again. If you don't divorce, you should do this. Communicate well with your wife, do your husband's duty, and I'm sure she will understand you. Don't get involved in extramarital affairs more and more, put yourself in the right position, and wish you happiness.