Post Date December, 02 2023
I am 27 years old this year, and she is 23 years old. We met through Momo, and she was breaking up with her second boyfriend at the time. And those few days I was also watching a concert in Shanghai, and we met, comforting her and giving her warmth. We were all very happy, but she said we couldn't. Later on, I returned to Changsha and contacted her via WeChat. We had a great time together, and she said we were very suitable. So I flew to Shanghai and established a romantic relationship with her.
Later on, she often argued over small matters. She said that due to her previous relationship, she had no sense of security. Her parents are now the first, and her future husband is the second. Now we are in a different location, without a house, etc. It's not suitable for marriage. Even if you love someone very much now, you won't be as devoted as before. Once, during a fight, I said, why don't you believe me? She said, 'When did I trust you?'? I am really sad. And after every argument, I always apologize and admit my mistake, she is always right. And if you feel a little uncomfortable, you will compare me with the boyfriend in front of you. I often say that I am responsible for her unhappiness. Always say goodbye.
I know she is someone who is hot on the outside but cold on the inside, so I don't really mind. And her personality is what I like, lively and outgoing, although not very beautiful. I am a relatively anxious person. Whenever he says he is unhappy or about to break up, I become very anxious and even lose sleep. I am at a loss and will keep calling her. I also tried to change some of her ideas, but they all failed. Her previous love affair did not involve infidelity, which is something I really appreciate. It's been two weeks since we broke up, and I still really want to save it. What should I do?
Weiqing Network Consultant:
I can tell that you are a very sensitive and infatuated boy. After understanding your detailed situation, I have analyzed the answer and have not told you before. I looked at it with a firm attitude and insisted on trying to retrieve it. It's not that redemption is impossible, but that the result of redemption is something that no one can guarantee or control.
I won't list the reasons one by one, just put forward two. First, there are no two identical people in the world. One cannot change the other, nor can one change the other. So it's almost impossible for you to change her ideas and achieve them. Secondly, she has a serious commitment mindset, building all her happiness on your foundation. You are responsible for her life emotions. Have you taken responsibility for everything you own? She is an adult and entrusted with her life to her partner. Do you think you can handle it?
She has been injured, it is understandable that the lack of security can be repaired, the lack of trust can be rebuilt, and she is not in the same city, she can go to the same city. But the two things I mentioned are almost difficult. If you must redeem them, you need to think carefully. What price can you pay and can you bear any outcome? If you are willing, then I will analyze and guide you specifically.
