Post Date December, 03 2023
[Letter from readers]
Hello, we are second married. My husband has been fighting with me for a few days because of a little trifle. Is he out there? I bought a recording pen and intend to put it in his bag, OK? The recorder is like a USB flash drive. I put it where he doesn't move much. If I find anything wrong with him through the recorder, I will divorce him and let him clean out of the house.
I have been at home in recent months and have two miscarriages every two months. The first time I wanted this child, two months ago, my husband insisted not to. In fact, it was difficult for us. I had to resign after one child. The second time was accidental pregnancy. If not, I would never suspect him without reason. He has been saying that all the tiredness is my imagination, but my sixth sense is that he has something to hide from me, so I want to find out. My friends advised me not to do this and told me to be a silly woman.
[Reply]
Hello, the most important thing between husband and wife is trust. If you break the trust without scruples, the relationship between husband and wife will be destroyed. In particular, the second married couple are somewhat separated, and it is more important to trust each other fully. If you want to be happy and harmonious in your married life, you need to have a calm and good attitude. Don't be suspicious everywhere. Don't suspect that the other party has done the worst thing because he or she has a bad temper with you. Don't use the recorder and camera as much as possible. Once the other party sees through, the consequences will be obvious.
In addition, even if you really find something through this kind of thing, or something you can't accept, will you be happy and frank about it? I think you will only be more depressed and painful in the face of the cruel reality. Sometimes, it is not necessarily a bad thing to be a bit muddled. If you lack tolerance and tolerance, care too much about some things, or even make trouble out of nothing, you are bound to lift a stone and hit yourself in the foot, which means you can't find yourself happy. What marriage needs is management, what husband and wife need is trust, love and happiness need to be created by heart, not excessive suspicion.
