Post Date December, 03 2023
As a man who has been paying attention to marital emotions for a long time, many readers will casually ask questions after reading my emotional articles: "You know women so well, don't you know how you're doing in real life? Your wife must be very happy, right?"
To be honest, whenever faced with such questions, I always feel guilty. Almost every day, I conduct preaching "education" on other people's marital and emotional issues, but I don't really handle marital issues best. My wife keeps busy as soon as possible every day, and I don't even have the time and thought to give her a hand.
On that day, my wife had a high fever and was still preparing various daily and school supplies for her daughter who was about to start school. She called me to give her a hand, but I didn't even hear an echo. Although I was probably too attentive and didn't hear it, in the end, my wife's accumulated resentment over the years was aroused. She took the mouse from my hand in great anger, "Tearing with grievance, she said, 'Children and housework are not the business of anyone else. What have you been in charge of in the past two years? Every day, you spend time at the computer' educating 'others, and how are you doing yourself? You are busy all day long, working hard during work hours, and communicating with netizens during work hours. Do you know how much time you have left for me every day?'"
Yes, I have been married to my wife for so many years, and she has accompanied me along the way of life. My career has made progress and progress, but I unconsciously ignored her feelings. Although I have made more money, I have really spent too little time with her. In the long run, the marriage will definitely light up.
So recently, I have given myself three "warnings" and hope to insist on sharing a little housework for my wife every day through an alarm clock reminder. Every weekend, my wife always asks me to accompany her to hang out or go back to her mother-in-law's home together.
In fact, I fully understand the crux of my wife's grievances. Her grievance is not because I am not good enough for her, let alone because I do not have a sense of responsibility for the family, but because I really do not leave much time to accompany her well, sometimes even if it is a false greeting, which may be a kind of laziness towards her and marriage!
No matter how delicate a man's heart is, he is still a careless animal. I always thought that as long as I work hard and earn more money to improve the quality of life for my wife and children, so that they can buy beautiful clothes and eat healthy and delicious food, it is the greatest responsibility of a man. But obviously women don't think that way. They want a bit of happiness, and they want a man who can seriously communicate with her and listen to her nagging and longing for life... Perhaps for them, these are far more meaningful than men earning a lot of money.
However, in reality, few men can understand this kind of woman's amorous feelings. I think that I am busy and exhausted all day, not all for you and the family, but when I come back, you still have to let me listen to those endless nagging, which is simply a chronic suicide.
As a result, there is a misunderstanding between men and women, and a slight lack of attention can lead to a crisis in marriage. Fortunately, I am not at that crazy level. I fully understand my wife's psychological needs. In fact, her requirements are not high. I only hope that I can spare a little time from work and busyness to accompany her, chat with her, share some housework appropriately, and provide some advice when encountering children's educational problems. That's all.
