Post Date December, 03 2023
Netizens asked: I am a married woman with a happy family and a lovely 9-year-old daughter. But there has always been a problem bothering me, that is, I always have a special feeling of love for the beautiful girls who suddenly appear in front of me, and I really want to contact with them. Of course, it is just a simple love, and there is no feeling after a few contact. Excuse me, what's wrong with me? Can it be gay? Or do I have any psychological obstacles?
In fact, I didn't care much about it before. Later, I thought that I suddenly felt stupid and abnormal. Why would I always like it uncontrollably? Now what worries me more is whether it will be passed on to my daughter? My family is very happy, my daughter is obedient, and my husband can make money again. It's good for us. I also care about my family and children wholeheartedly. I don't want this hobby to affect them
Expert reply: In fact, most of us are born "bisexual", but because of the inheritance and restriction of social culture and the physiological needs, we will turn to heterosexuality more. Moreover, this "love" between the same sex and the opposite sex is based on "love", which is a state of inner pleasure that human beings will have for any object that can make them "pleasing to the eye". However, when we think this reaction is inappropriate, this kind of love is added with the color of abnormal or evil.
Beautiful and eye-catching people, no matter men or women, many people love to watch, and of course, they will have a good feeling of "like", which is very normal! Therefore, you should correctly realize that your love for such "beautiful girls" is just a normal phenomenon. In fact, you also know that "beautiful girls" can attract you and make you want to contact them, but that's all, isn't it? This has nothing to do with "homosexuality", let alone psychological barriers!
The so-called homosexuality refers to a person's persistent emotional, romantic and sexual attraction to the same sex, regardless of whether such attraction is manifested in explicit behavior. Homosexuality is a kind of sexual orientation and a natural existence. There are also various sexual orientations in the animal world.
Moreover, modern scientific research shows that homosexuality is not a mental disease or psychological disorder, but a sexual orientation. It is actually an inborn feature, just like the color of everyone's eyes.
For you, you have a happy family and a husband who loves you, and the so-called "some kind of love for the same sex" is only a temporary love. Many people will have this kind of psychology, which is normal. So, you don't have to worry about it, and don't think about it. It's not abnormal, and it's impossible to inherit it. Let yourself relax and enjoy a happy life!
(Intern editor: Cai Junyi)
