Post Date December, 03 2023
Why do some men, when looking at a one night stand, tightly focus solely on satisfying their sexual desires, and then go their separate ways? Perhaps in their eyes, it is tightly focused on desire and not love. So how do men distinguish between love and desire? Next, let's follow the editor to explore the truth.
Gender Disclosure: Men Distinguish Love and Desire in This Way
We must have heard the following statement more than once: for example, love has "rules", and it must be "this way" (never "that way") to get Cupid's favor; If you want to cultivate and allow the seeds of love to thrive, women must act like women, and of course, men must also act like men; People need to restrain certain instinctive thoughts or behavioral tendencies in order to get along with each other more happily, and so on. In terms of love and sexual behavior, there are some deep-rooted concepts in people's hearts. However, are these viewpoints scientific? Neuroimaging research has cracked such rumors from a unique intuitive perspective.
Is love just an emotion?
Kindergarten teachers teach children to categorize emotions such as "love", "anger", "sadness", and "surprise". This is the same as what is written in many poems and sung in songs. However, anyone who has experienced 'love' knows that 'love' is not as fleeting as other emotions. Through neuroimaging, neuroscientists found that love is more of a motivation - just like the motivation of eating, drinking and making love.
Helen Fisher, an evolutionary biologist who studied "love" at Rutgers University, realized that love is a strong physiological process: think of those blushing and heartbeat, sweating palms and feelings of being unable to stop! Fischer identified specific regions in the brain that correspond to love, as well as regions related to sex and attachment, but the three do not overlap. Based on this, Fischer concluded that love is not only a motive for breeding offspring, but also a glue that helps people connect closely with each other.
Men want to do it, women want love?
This is a widely circulated Martian legend - people often believe that what men and women want from relationships is different: men only want physical enjoyment, while women want deeper, more meaningful, and longer lasting relationships. Although there is already a lot of evidence to support this viewpoint, many people still firmly believe it.
However, scientific research on the brain has shown that there are even greater differences in sexual behavior between the same sex than between the opposite sex. Moreover, there is no gender difference in the brain imaging of love (i.e. the types and regions of brain activity when people see photos of their loved ones). This result, along with epidemiological and other research data, indicates that men and women engage in sexual activity for the same reasons. It seems that the saying 'men want to do, women want to love' needs to be reconsidered.
Are love and hate two extremes?
Or go back to the "emotions" table in kindergarten - "love" and "hate" are considered two opposite extremes. Of course, it seems that this is indeed the case. However, SemirZeki, one of the pioneers in the field of neuroimaging of "love", decided to try to find neuroimaging of "hate" in the brain.
As a result, he found and, while seeing specific circuits in the brain being 'lit up', he also found that 'love' and 'hate' correspond to common key regions in the brain. Zeki admits that this may be because many participants think about their ex boyfriends or ex girlfriends when they "hate". However, research on brain activity strongly supports the ancient belief that 'love and hate are only a thin line apart'.
Pornographic works only attract male attention?
The human brain seems to be naturally attracted to pornography. Thomas James, a neuroscientist at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute, stated that the brain response triggered by images containing sexual stimuli is two to three times stronger than any other type of image he has used, and this phenomenon is not limited to males. When women face sexy images, their brain imaging shines like a sparkling Christmas tree.
Researchers at the Kinsey Institute have found that there are differences in brain activity between males and females when appreciating sexy images. Lead researcher Heather Rupp stated that the activated parts of the male and female brains vary depending on the specific image. However, in addition, both men and women reported that these images were equally provocative and the fixation time was basically the same - which means that women still have a certain level of appreciation for visual sexual stimulation.
