Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been pregnant for more than seven months. Facing the baby that will be born in more than two months, I am looking forward to and worried about the consumption pressure I will face. Whether I can bear it.
First of all, let's talk about the current economic situation: before pregnancy, I worked in an enterprise as a designer with a monthly income of more than 4000 yuan. He worked as a teacher in a middle school with a monthly income of more than 1000 yuan. We need to pay more than 1000 yuan of housing loans every month and spend more than 1000 yuan on daily expenses. Originally, we had a comfortable life of more than 5000 yuan per month and more than 2000 yuan per month, but after the pregnancy was detected, Considering that my job often works overtime and stays up late (I tried to sleep one hour every night for five consecutive days to catch up with the product catalogue a few days ago, and stayed up all night for two consecutive nights), I have more than ten flat-screen computers in my office, which are too radiant, so I resolutely chose to resign for the sake of my baby.
Since November last year, I have been working at home while raising a baby. The customers I worked with and talked with before the new year have been quiet since the new year and have no income since the new year. Now I can only live on his salary of more than 1000 yuan a month, but that salary can only be enough to pay the mortgage, and other expenses have to be taken out of the passbook (more than 30000 yuan saved by working in the past). I'm starting to worry about the so-called "sitting on the sidelines". If the next day is not optimistic, what should I do? Can I cope with the expenses of daily life and children? I think about it every day in my mind.
However, it seems that only I am worried, but he doesn't feel the pressure at all. Except for the prescribed extracurricular classes, he has five days a week to go to work. He either sits in front of the computer to play games or pesters me to buy a car (recently he took a fancy to a car of more than 80000), and he has to tell me every day, Then every day, I will also earnestly analyze with him: "With our current savings and income, we can't afford to buy a car for the time being. The deposit of more than 30000 is just enough for the down payment, and we have to bear 1600 more car loans every month. The lowest estimate of housing loans, car loans and daily expenses is more than 4000 per month... If we really want to buy a car, then we should work together to earn more money". Every time he finished speaking, he kept silent and went back to the computer to play his game
Many people say that during pregnancy, don't think too much and be happy, but I can't be optimistic. I always worry about the future. I often sit in a daze and look at the neighbor who is also pregnant next door. I don't have to worry about anything. His husband has arranged everything, and I... I really hope he can give more support. I hope he can think about how to make more money in his spare time besides playing games, Even if you just think about it
Is it that I think too much and ask too much, or is he really not doing enough?
Should I try to guide him or change my mind?
How can we get out of this confusion?
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
