Post Date December, 03 2023
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years, and we cohabited during the Spring Festival this year. Now I am pregnant. I have been keeping it from my parents, but he has already told them. After his parents learned about it, they didn't object at all, but were very happy. They also invited a fortune teller to predict that I would have a boy. Therefore, my boyfriend urged me to apply for marriage registration with him. I don't know what to do for a moment.
I really regret it. I shouldn't have been so 'undefended'. To be honest, I have no preparation for getting married, and my love for him is still hesitating. Moreover, my parents oppose his bad habit of smoking and drinking, and have not yet officially accepted him. Moreover, neither of us has a high income, no housing, and we do not have the conditions to raise children.
Faced with so many problems and difficulties, I want to temporarily not get married and go to the hospital for an induced abortion. After my boyfriend learned about my thoughts, he immediately argued with me, believing that my love for him was not sincere, and saying that pregnancy was the best reason to get married. He is guarding me every day now, afraid that I will go to the hospital alone for an induced abortion, and I am embarrassed by his "strict guard".
I would like to ask if, in a situation like mine, can I refuse my boyfriend's unilateral request to get married? Do you have to get married when you're pregnant?
Miss Yang:
You didn't grasp the proper balance of your relationship with your boyfriend and hastily cohabited with him, resulting in unmarried pregnancy. Now you regret it. If there are still many unresolved issues in your relationship with your boyfriend and you don't want to marry him at the moment, then simply show him that you don't want to get married hastily, let alone become a mother so soon.
Perhaps you can't convince him from an emotional perspective, but you can work harder from a legal perspective. According to the national family planning policies and regulations, "unmarried pregnancy" should be treated with surgery, and "unmarried childbirth" is illegal. Marriage that has not been registered with the civil affairs department is invalid, cohabitation does not equal marriage, and you have the right to break up. In this situation, your boyfriend should solve the problem rationally and carefully.
Of course, your boyfriend and his parents' emotions can be understood, but they must respect your right to choose, and cannot force you to get married, which is illegal.
