Post Date December, 02 2023
In this world, there is no husband and wife who do not fight. However, there is another sentence: husband and wife quarrel with each other at the end of the bed. That is to say, there is not much hatred between husband and wife. However, there are still some taboos in the quarrel. For example, some things can't be said and some things can't be done... because these things will seriously hurt your feelings and even lead to family breakdown. Therefore, there is also something particular about the quarrel between husband and wife.
Satirize and belittle each other
That is to say, when quarrelling, they always say that the other party is very bad, which will hurt the other party's heart. Recall, are you familiar with such words? "You are a loser", "You are useless", "You are really worthless", "Are you still a man?" "You are not as good as my ex-boyfriend, ex-husband, so-and-so..." and so on. Remember, you can fight, but there are rules. You belittle the other party, not raise yourself, but only prove that you are the same kind. If there is a third party in the war between the two, it is the fuse. Don't rub sand in the eyes of lovers. People die when compared with people, and goods are thrown away when compared with goods. If you are not an engineer, don't bury or dig mines. Unless you want to detonate.
Poke each other's pain
That is to say, when quarreling, they always expose the weaknesses of the other party and make a lot of noise. When they quarreled and could not make sense, they wanted to steal the white, turn over the old accounts, and frustrate each other. So the couple began to retaliate with each other, expose each other's shortcomings, and tear their faces. You are my closest person, so you should bear it without any reason. But you know what? He put a knife on his head. Under the knife, it is your closest person who is injured. It is enough to bury your feelings, and love begets hate. This kind of pain, tearing the heart and lungs, is the most destructive and difficult to repair. Despite quarrels, there are limits. Crossing the border will hurt feelings. If you want to have a good life, don't hurt your feelings or expose your faults. If the mirror is broken, even if it is round, there will be cracks. There will also be shadows.
Always play "wolf comes"
Every quarrel is threatened by breaking up and divorce. In fact, it is very emotional. "Can we survive? If we can't, we will divorce!" This sentence is the missile that the relationship between husband and wife is going to break down, and it has the strongest killing power. If you don't want to break up or divorce, and use this as a threat, you think you can suppress the other party, then you are very wrong. There are two kinds of results waiting for you. First, the other party is angry about divorce. Hum, leave and leave. Who is afraid of who? Second, the other side temporarily converged, but actually operated in a dark box. Try out the other party and threaten to break up. It's like the story of "the wolf is coming" for a long time. If you often give this hint, the other party will subconsciously prepare to break up.
Frequent cold violence
The most terrible thing in a quarrel is cold violence, which is the most dangerous behavior. Not all silence is gold. One kind of violence is domestic violence, which directly destroys the body. Another kind of violence is cold violence, but it is a double torture of body and mind. The cold war, invisibly, establishes an insurmountable wall between husband and wife. If it does not break out in the cold war, it will die in the cold war. Don't be afraid of death. Are you still afraid of life? Deadlock, contradictions really entangle you at a loss, can only let it go? If you are willing to suffer in the grave, continue to cool your emotions until the day when they become completely rigid.
Always push ahead
Such people are the most disgusting and always have broken thoughts. One thing is said in reverse. Don't give each other steps at all, which is the common problem of husband and wife quarrel. Sadly, the previous efforts failed. Sigh, suffocate. It is a wise thing to stop when you are happy. No matter who is right or wrong, compromise will be blamed? The person who stepped back is already in the open air. The person who benefited from it should end up with a gong and slap a sweet date, instead of reluctantly causing a wordless ending. This is a good way to maintain a close relationship.
How much hatred a husband and wife can have is a trivial matter. There is no need for the two people to fight each other. If you are quick in words, you will lose more precious things. Emotion will become punitive, and tongue will be destructive. However, the two people will tear down each other, humiliate each other, and be hostile to each other. The time of mutual silence is lengthening, and the marriage will also die. Therefore, if you love each other deeply, you must be rational. Believe you, quarreling and even breaking up are not the ultimate goal. Of course, unless you want to.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
