Post Date December, 03 2023
Why are the more leftover women, the less men they can find? "There are more and more leftover women now, so any adjectives such as leftover fighters or ashes of leftover women will appear. Is it true that leftover women have no charm?"? Can't you find true love? Not necessarily, because many times, it is because they have the following psychological causes.
1. Her reason for resignation: "I can't touch the other half."
Behind the reason: She's right. She didn't meet the right person. Because she was unwilling to take risks, she had already told herself that she would definitely lose before going to the battlefield. She refused to face the possible dangers of her relationship. Her rejection of her emotions is a cover for her lack of self-confidence.
Moreover, if someone persuades her to start a relationship, she will quickly admit, "Regardless, I am a waste!" What kind of mother does such a self depreciating woman have? Does her mother say more frequently that only by losing weight, stopping cutting your hair, becoming more feminine, and going to social situations can you find a man? Or does two-thirds of her words begin with "my poor daughter"? In order to overcome the pain of self belittling, resigned women may switch from "I'm a waste" to "Men are all waste.". Oh, this is exactly what my mother often said!
How to overcome this fear? Start learning self-confidence and self worth.
2. As a female soldier, her reason is: "Men are afraid of me."
Behind the reason: Of course, men are afraid of her because she is strong and confident. No one saw a wounded crying child in her heart. What childhood trauma did she try to repair as she grew up? What is she fighting against? Is it a father, grandfather, brother, boss, or ex boyfriend? Has she ever seen her mother repeatedly humiliated and secretly determined not to repeat the old rut?
Because she rejects the hopes and needs of emotional life, she has to make herself more independent. She wants to be the dominant person in her life, and she believes that no one can meet her requirements. Someone may say she thinks highly of herself. But in fact, she has been wandering between inferiority and conceit.
How to overcome this fear? To understand, before conquering men, we must first become our own masters. Face up to your past.
3. Her reason for independence: "I love my freedom."
Behind the reason: She is busy working, exercising, watching exhibitions, listening to concerts, meeting friends, and taking vacations. But she doesn't have a minute for herself. Where else is there time for men on her agenda? In fact, she has made her life so full, precisely in order not to leave any room for men to occupy a place in her life.
Where does this extreme desire for self control and fear of losing control come from? It is likely that her parents like to dictate and command, always judging her practices, always criticizing, and always looking at her with a critical eye. If she couldn't say "no" to this scrutiny when she was a little girl, she wouldn't be able to face men when she grew up. So she chose to close herself without leaving any gaps.
The above reasons are the reasons why many leftover women have been unable to find a good home. Therefore, it is recommended that leftover women also need to pay attention to their psychological health, adjust their mentality, and enhance their personal confidence and charm, in order to attract good men and quickly get rid of their bills.
