Post Date December, 03 2023
Although extramarital love is no longer a strange thing at present, it is also an important reason for destroying marriage and family life. Why is it that people's living standards are improved now, and there is no need to worry about livelihood problems, but marriage is increasingly unhappy?
The reasons for the increasing trend of extramarital love in China are quite complex, not because of the lack of real freedom of divorce. Some marriages that have "died" or should "die" should certainly end in divorce. However, marriage and family are by no means purely personal matters, and the fine cultural tradition that a married person must bear social responsibility for his spouse and minor children has not disappeared in our hearts.
Therefore, some families with marital conflicts do not want to divorce hastily when they are interfered by various public opinions; Some parties feel that the cost of divorce is too high because of the restrictions of children, housing, economy and other conditions. Such parties do not necessarily turn to extramarital love.
The occurrence of extramarital love is more due to the lack of self-restraint and social restraint of sexual instinct, the old and the new, and the lack of attention to the emotional consolidation of both sides of the marriage. Especially under the negative influence of Western sexual freedom, under the condition of power and money permission, extramarital sexual behaviors occur in large numbers. Therefore, this is the manifestation of the decline of social morality, not the absence of freedom of divorce.
There are significant differences between men and women in extramarital love. From the perspective of initial motivation, men are generally seeking for novelty, relieving the burden of career and family, and satisfying the desire to conquer, while women are generally motivated by the psychology of compensation, dependence and reward. From the perspective of love characteristics, men's extramarital love is mostly due to sexual temptation, which is casual, accidental and improvisational. The speed and intensity of love outbreak is higher than that of women; Women's extramarital love pays more attention to the emotional basis and psychological feelings, and is better than men's in the depth and durability of love.
In terms of role characteristics, men are active, impulsive and phased, while women are more passive. From the result of extramarital love behavior, the general process of male extramarital love is from "liking the new and not tired of the old" to "not tired of the old and abandoning the new", while the general process of female extramarital love is from "liking the old and liking the new" to "abandoning the old and looking for the new". The reason for this difference is that men generally pay more attention to career, future and reality; Women tend to regard love as the main theme of life. The difference between the two sexes in extramarital love makes women vulnerable to greater harm in extramarital love.
In fact, it is not only our country that has an increasing frequency of extramarital love. Many countries have such a phenomenon. More and more people are not satisfied with the current marriage life. They always have extramarital love in order to find stimulation. The editor suggests that everyone should pay attention not to let their marriage go astray because of this abnormal sexual relationship.
