Post Date December, 02 2023
Marriage is good or bad, in addition to viewing it from different perspectives and perspectives, there is also a question of how far to look. Is it distance or close range? I advocate leaving at a distance to see.
Why Does a Happy Marriage Need Knocking
Life is a process, and marriage is also a process. If there is sunshine, there will inevitably be rain. The question is whether we can wait for the sunshine after the rain when it comes. This requires confidence in marriage, believing that bad luck will pass and that tomorrow will be even better. However, restless modern people often lack the patience to look far and wait. If marriage is not satisfactory, they will become angry, dissatisfied, angry, vent, crazy, and even cause a fatal blow to the marriage.
It's not that we should indulge in the vulgarity of marriage, it's just that we should have a normal heart towards marriage. Perhaps even amidst the calm waves, we can also enjoy the happiness and joy brought by marriage. The fact is the same. Some marriages may not seem to have much glamour, with men being careless and women being careless, but many years have passed and it looks good, which is the overall effect of the marriage. On the contrary, if it's just a momentary feeling, then marriage can break up every minute.
There is an old saying that is quite reasonable. It says that before getting married, you should keep your eyes wide open and then close your eyes after getting married. Who can be perfect and flawless? Who can stop making some minor mistakes? Two people spend time together day and night, and over time, their true form becomes apparent. Can we accommodate each other more? If we haggle over every ounce, we must smash the pot and lift the bed. To be patient and tolerant is a wise way for a husband and wife. Especially, one cannot use one's own good habits to demand others. There is an example of a certain woman who is a model housewife who manages her husband and children's lives in an orderly manner. But what her husband can't stand is her cleanliness habit. For example, she has many cleaning cloths in the kitchen, such as dishwashing, pot washing, and wiping the table, which are "in their respective positions" and cannot be mixed. She can wield herself effortlessly, but if her husband wants to show hospitality, he has to mess it up and often leads to a complaint. A trivial matter like this is originally insignificant, but once you get nervous, it can hurt the relationship between husband and wife, and it's not worth it.
Of course, smart people will find tricks to deal with each other, even if it's to please and show off. Even the famous Zhou Runfa joked that if his wife wants to get angry, I will obediently stand by. A good man's posture of not fighting women. This posture is undoubtedly magnanimous and unrestrained. For men, just be patient with women.
Another situation is when the other party betrays their marriage, what should you do? He goes his own way, of course you have nothing to say. If he is determined to reform, can you give him a chance? Eyes cannot be mixed with sand, which is an idealistic idea. When we love marriage like we love our eyes, the feeling of entering the sand is of course very painful. But in fact, the eyes do not exist in a vacuum and may enter the sand. That is to say, if you still need these eyes, just remove the sand. Giving the other party a chance is equivalent to giving oneself a chance.
Have you heard of a fable about happiness? The door to happiness is tightly closed, and those who seek it need to knock on it once, twice, three times... the door is not open. The person knocking on the door stopped knocking and left. The God of Happiness sighed inside and said, 'Poor person, just knock again and I will open the door.'.
A happy marriage also requires us to constantly strike. When we hold the idea of 'almost', we are not far from happiness.
