Post Date December, 03 2023
Around our lives, many people will find that men who become fathers seem to be more likely to be favored by the opposite sex, that is, fathers seem to be more attractive than young men. In psychology, experts have studied the relationship between men and women who are fathers. What is the result? Let's have a look.
When a man becomes a father, he will only be more attractive
The basic premise of evolutionary psychology is that many human behaviors are directed to future generations - the purpose is to pass on their genes. The reproductive cost of the female is very high, so the female is more inclined to choose a stable relationship and raise children together with a long-term spouse; If a man shows the characteristics of "reliable", "mature" and "good at caring for future generations" and is willing to pay resources and time for caring for future generations, he will be more sexy in the eyes of women.
Even if a man takes care of other people's children, the problem is not serious, as long as his relationship with the woman is stable. While men have the trait of "like children", which will be very important in a long-term relationship. Women will not lower their overall evaluation of men because they are being diluted with resources at present.
Psychologist Pegila Sera designed such a set of slides, including: 1. A man stands alone; 2. A man interacts with an 18-month-old child; 3. A man turned a blind eye to the crying child; 4. A man and a child face to face (neutral situation); 5. A man is cleaning the living room. 240 women were asked to rate the sexual attractiveness of the characters in the above five images, with 5 points being the full score.
In the second state, men scored the highest, with 2.75 points; The score in the third state is the lowest, only 1.25. In this way, being with children is not only good for men's charm, but also good for personal charm. In the eyes of women, a man can take good care of children independently, which shows that he has some excellent qualities that not all men have.
If we change the conditions of this experiment, men will score the attractiveness of women in different situations. However, we will find that whether a woman is doing housework, taking care of children, or just standing alone, her attraction to men will not change. In other words, taking care of children does not increase the attractiveness of women in the eyes of men.
Whether men will take care of children, women are born with intuition
Generally, women have never seen their partner take care of their children before marriage, but sometimes women have this intuition.
In 1991, a study mentioned that women can find some of their own personality traits in the report of men, especially some qualities necessary for taking care of children, such as "warmth" and "closeness", just by looking at the photos of the men.
Psychologists later conducted another study. They first tested the interest of 39 college boys in children, It includes an explicit test (presenting a picture of an animal and a child at the same time, letting the subjects choose which one they prefer, and getting an average result by repeating it for many times) and an implicit attitude test (repeatedly matching the words related to infants with positive or negative words to form a psychological connection, so as to judge whether the subjects' attitude towards infants is positive or negative). Then let 29 women watch their photos and evaluate whether they are attractive to themselves as long-term spouses or short-term partners. At the same time, they should also speculate on some of their characteristics, such as "whether they like children", "whether they are healthy" and "whether they are kind".
The result is that women's evaluation of whether men like children or not is not closely related to men's own performance in the interest test for children. However, further analysis found that men's interest in children is the main factor affecting their long-term attraction to women.
So from the perspective of women's subjective feelings, the factor that affects long-term attractiveness is "(women think) whether he likes children", and the factor that affects short-term attractiveness is "whether he is masculine".
In general, a man with children will not reduce his attractiveness in the eyes of women. If he can interact with children well and show his love for children, he will definitely get extra points in the eyes of women.
