Post Date December, 02 2023
New China leads people to become rich and powerful. With people's living conditions getting better and better, many men look for one-night stands, whether for entertainment or for excitement. "The red flag at home does not fall, and the colored flag floats outside" is a description of men's flirtatiousness. The latest survey found that 100% of men do not refuse to have a one-night stand outside marriage.
Don't refuse peach blossom
Suppose a charming stranger comes to you and says to you, "I think you are very attractive. Would you like to spend the night with me?" If you are a woman, you will be furious and feel offended; If you are male, the situation is different. In fact, in a similar study, 100% of women said "no" to this situation, while 75% of men believed that they were lucky, and 25% of men only said "no" considering their current partner. It can be seen that men really spend more time than women.
Flower heart cause
Evolutionary psychologists have explained why men are more promiscuous than women from the perspective of gene transmission. The same is sexual behavior. Men have almost no investment. Women are very likely to conceive in September. Theoretically, an ancient man with casual private life can cause many women to conceive and produce a large number of offspring within a year, but an ancient woman can only have one child within a year no matter how many people she has sex with. The reproductive benefits of men from short-term sexual behavior are far greater than that of women, which makes men develop a much greater desire for short-term sexual behavior than women.
Stable relationship
However, a man's willingness to enter a stable sexual relationship does not mean that he is content with "monogamy". In fact, in addition to a stable sexual relationship, there are also some short-term sexual relationships, which is more conducive to its gene transmission. Of course, these short-term sexual relationships are not without costs. For example, having multiple sexual partners is more likely to be infected with diseases; The image of "rogue" will make it difficult for him to find a suitable long-term spouse; He may be retaliated by his wife. In other words, he must find ways to make his gains in short-term sexual relations outweigh his losses. In order to deal with this problem, men have evolved a series of instinctive tendencies, which psychologists call short-term mate selection strategies.
Choose a spouse
When it comes to choosing short-term partners, men's strategies are completely different. The survey found that when men choose short-term sexual partners, they put lower standards on their attractiveness, health, education level, friendship, sense of responsibility and other criteria, let alone require how loyal the other party is, and "avoiding commitment" is the core of their short-term mate selection strategy. Because once a commitment is made, the short-term relationship will evolve into a long-term relationship, which runs counter to his wishes.
The study found that when choosing short-term sexual partners, men will reject women who require commitment. Many men with rich sexual experience have this experience: after a night of romance, the charm of their partner disappears and they want to leave. This proves to some extent that men have evolved a psychological mechanism to quickly break up with each other after a short-term sexual relationship in order to minimize investment.
Irritate the upper body
Compared with reality, it is not difficult to find out why women who claim "nothing" are easy to win the favor of married "multi-gold men" and quickly start an extramarital relationship; Once a woman asks for a commitment, the other party will most likely cut the love and return to his wife, because the "golden man" inherited his ancient ancestors' short-term mate selection strategy - avoiding commitment to avoid getting angry.
This reminds those girls who fall into the romantic trap of married "multi golden man" that it is not easy for a man to abandon his wife and son. Unless you can guarantee that you never need commitment - this is exactly the death of women's brain, and asking for commitment is the core of women's reproductive strategy. Otherwise, it is better to end early to avoid too deep injury.
Of course, men's long-term and short-term mate selection strategy is only a psychological instinct, but it is not immutable. Because it runs counter to modern civilization after all, human reason can correct instinct, and understanding the formation mechanism of psychological instinct is the first step of correction.
Marriage form
The fidelity of the wife can prevent the "wild" ancient men from having casual sexual relations, and the benefits are great. Why did humans evolve this form of marriage? There are three main reasons:
First, too casual men are not popular with women. An ancient woman obviously preferred a man who is good at hunting and can take care of her and her children for a long time, which is conducive to her gene transmission. In order to win the favor of women, men should not go too far. If they go too far, no one would like to have children with him, and gene transmission would become a "mirror of water".
Second, there is no DNA detection technology in ancient times. A stable sexual relationship can help men confirm the paternity relationship, avoid raising the wrong children and make "wedding clothes" for others.
Third, the living conditions in primitive society were poor, and children without fathers generally did not live long. Even in modern times, in some primitive tribes, if the father died, the villagers would unanimously vote to kill his children, because these children would occupy other people's resources.
It can be seen that if an ancient man just "sows", regardless of rearing, it is not conducive to its gene transmission. In fact, stable gender relations are the product of the cooperation of the reproductive strategies of both sexes.
