Post Date December, 03 2023
[Question]
I don't seem to have much on the surface, but I actually lack a sense of security in my heart. However, my husband, who I married, is very experienced in personnel. He is very, very popular in the workplace, especially in front of female colleagues, and enjoys it very much.
There are often female colleagues who come very close to their husbands. Today, a girl who was very close to him said in the office, "Today is the birthday of xxx (husband's name)." I really didn't expect her to remember my husband's birthday, and she still remembers it so clearly. My heart is very sad, indescribable, and I can't convince myself that it's a normal colleague relationship.
When my husband and I are talking about these things, he always talks nonsense about me, saying it's social and social circles, saying I don't understand the world, and conversely, all the mistakes he can make are on me. I am really sad and can't accept it. I don't understand. If you really want to be with someone else, just tell me directly. Why hide it from me? What should I do? I don't want to upset the vinegar jar either.
Answer
He wanted to be with you, so he used a marriage book to hold your future together. The greatest respect and love a man has for a woman is to provide her with the guarantee of marriage. Be more confident in yourself, after all, the person he chooses is you. He married you, which is the best proof of his love for you.
By analyzing this birthday event separately, it can be seen that you are very sensitive, delicate, and prone to being paranoid. This is both a good thing and a bad thing. On the positive side, women with delicate emotions are often more sensitive to the human heart and gentler than ordinary people. If they know how to apply this delicacy to caring for others, they will be a very appropriate and warm partner; The downside is that being too sensitive can often amplify the impact of the event itself and even generate emotions that you don't already have - for example, normal communication may seem intimate and add to suspicion, questioning your husband with suspicion, leading to a dark cloud at home. Your heartbreak is unbearable, but he feels that you are making a big deal out of nothing. Therefore, your arguments are always difficult to come to a unified conclusion, always ending in his strong persuasion, and you are once again silently distressed. Everything in the world has two sides, and there is no pure good or pure evil. Everyone needs to find their own position and develop towards the good.
Looking at it from a different perspective, choosing you as his wife is the greatest affirmation for a husband who is so popular and popular. You are also very outstanding. Otherwise, who can easily package their life to someone else without any worries? You need to love yourself, integrate into the group like him, socialize more, and have your own circle of life and friends, which will help you better understand him.
A multi hearted woman should learn to channel emotions and persuade herself. It's easy to relieve emotions. If you have any questions, don't keep quiet and communicate in a direct and clear way. "Direct and clear" refers to a discussion based on the facts, such as "Everyone remembers your birthday. Husband, do you want to invite colleagues who are familiar with you to have more fun together, or do you want the two of us to celebrate together, Instead of purely jealous questions like 'why do you have so much to say to them' or 'why did you smile at xx again today'. The occasional coquettishness and anger of women can be fascinating, but the persistent stubbornness can be repulsive. Self persuasion refers to not being too obsessed with certain details, but learning to provide reasonable explanations on your own - your observation of details is almost instinctive, and you may have noticed everything you didn't, but you will expand the details and create bad associations, which requires you to distinguish. What is real to deal with and what is false to give up? If it is temporarily difficult to distinguish, you can narrate the scene to the consultant for help.
Perhaps they didn't mean to say a word, and you were so upset on your lover's birthday that you lost a lot. Life can be very complex. Relax, learn to live a complex life simply, bring happiness to those around you, and you will be very happy.
