Post Date December, 03 2023
Sense of security is a fear that arises from one's own loss of ownership of a certain state, status, or object. I believe readers have all experienced insecurity in love, in the workplace, in the process of life, or in the possession of precious objects
The gnawing of this emotion. Some people can overcome and make their lives better; But some people are still unable to get rid of the entanglement of this issue and leave behind profound shadows. But I don't think this is a state that cannot be fought against. As long as we know where these emotions are rooted in our hearts, we can find ways to confront them.
So, I want to explore from the beginning, what is the crux of this mood? If we want to be more inclusive, stable, and down-to-earth in love, in the workplace, and even in life, what kind of change should we seek? Or even, who should I seek it from?
This may eventually become a philosophical issue. But personally, I enjoy philosophical exploration and contemplation, although discussing philosophical issues may not necessarily lead to quick solutions. But only in this way can you understand the starting point of your intuition and sensibility, guide yourself to face problems through reason and logic, and truly liberate yourself from emotions. This is a process of seeking one's own freedom, and I hope everyone can participate together.
The starting point for exploring this issue is to start with who is responsible for making people feel insecure in love.
In terms of love, I believe many people have experienced insecurity. Faced with a heterosexual person who has struggled to catch up, and faced with the title of boyfriend or girlfriend, it does make the person feel happy and proud. But this pride often makes people worry about gains and losses, because the award of a title depends entirely on the other party's mood swings.
The granting of a title completely depends on the other party's mood swings
The title 'boyfriend' or 'girlfriend' is often a temporary status obtained by doing something right in the past. But no one can guarantee that we can always hold someone's boyfriend (girlfriend)
Such a title. Whenever we do something wrong, say a wrong sentence, or have a past trait that no longer exists (or even is no longer appreciated by others), this title seems to be leaving us. In other words, the retention of titles seems to have the vast majority of power in the person who grants us it
。 This also leads to an intuitive conclusion: if we let his eyes only look at himself, his ears only listen to himself, and his heart only think about himself, then his position may be as stable as Mount Taishan.
So for most people, they will start to use various control methods
Attempt to avoid any person, matter, or thing that may harm the relationship or status. For example, attendance check is such a thing. A more normal attendance checker will choose to call you when you should be free: What are you doing? Do you miss someone else?
But those with a severe sense of fear may make phone calls whenever they have time or concerns, and become angry if they don't answer three times; It's more likely to cry and call you at 3:30 in the middle of the night and say, 'Oh, I dreamt that you were going to break up with me.'. You say, you say! Is there anything like this? Promise me that you will never leave me~
