Post Date December, 02 2023
I am very confused now because there is a problem with my marriage and I don't know how to solve it. We have been married for five years and have a four year old child. I suspect my husband is having an affair now, and I have heard others say it before. His various behaviors also make me feel very suspicious. His phone is not allowed for me to touch, and his SMS also has a password. He goes out late every day after work, and he says he goes out to play with friends. We used to go shopping and buy clothes together, but now he doesn't tell me even if he goes there himself. I also asked him if he knew any woman, and he said he didn't, or he didn't want to talk about it. I also told him that when someone saw him outside with another woman, he wouldn't admit it. Sometimes he would lie to me. To be honest, I think he must have had an affair. I just haven't seen it with my own eyes, there's no evidence. What should I do to him now? Is it anger? Are you still messing with him? Or ignore this matter? How can I save this man's heart? We don't have much emotional foundation, we got married on blind dates. Please ask experts to help me, thank you!
Ms. Wu:
You have no emotional foundation when you go on blind dates and get married. After marriage, we need to strengthen our training. Whether he is cheating now is not the key point you need to explore. If you want to continue living with him, why not treat these rumors and any suspicious anxieties as the red light of your marriage? It's not scary to see your marriage turn red now, what's scary is that your marriage has come to an end in this red light.
Since he doesn't admit it, he also hopes to have a good marriage with you. If you make trouble with him now, if he falls apart or turns his back, your marriage will be on the brink of collapse. Wise women are always able to turn defeat into victory when there are problems in marriage, bringing back the seemingly dead end of marriage. Why don't you take this as an opportunity to find the shortcomings in your marriage? Is it your own neglect that makes your husband feel neglected and instead seeks other possibilities for satisfaction? By strengthening the foundation of your relationship, other women will naturally avoid self defeating. If your relationship has any issues, any extramarital disturbances will pose a threat to your marriage.
