Post Date December, 03 2023
Reader's Letter:
Well, I am a secondary school student, graduated from an adult college, and I am 22 years old this year! I have been secretly in love with a male colleague for two years and have been afraid to speak up. He is a sales manager who is 38 years old. He is very nice and has no airs. He treats me and everyone very well. "But he is married, and has a son who is five years old. Her wife used to be our factory flower, but now she is an executive in a foreign company.". He usually feels the same when speaking to me, and his eyes are different. "I've always liked him and I feel nervous when I see him. I work better without him, but when he's not in the office, I'm worried.".
"I have a boyfriend, and over the past two years, my boyfriend has felt that I am in a bad mental state. He has always thought it was my job that didn't go well. In fact, there is one reason for this. The biggest reason is that I am with my boyfriend, but my heart is not with him.".
Recently, I wanted to resign. My boyfriend has always wanted me to resign. I am a clerk assistant role. Because of the management style of the department manager, we all feel uncomfortable, so I told my male colleague. He asked me why? I never knew how to answer him, so I didn't reply. "Until we were the only two of us after work, he asked me again. At that time, I wanted to say that because I liked you and had always had a crush on you, but I couldn't say it. I decided that it was a matter of destroying someone's family and very immoral.". "There are many reasons why I chose to speak. He asked me if the manager often scolded me. I said no, and when he asked again, I didn't answer.". He said that if it's based on development issues, it's really not good, so I'll just leave work.
I really like him. What do you think I should do? I feel very uncomfortable in my heart. In fact, the biggest reason for leaving my job is that I want to sever this relationship.
reply:
Hello! Emotion, especially love, is really hard to say. You don't know when and when you will suddenly fall in love with someone. However, sometimes we really have no way, love is conditional, love is conditional. First of all, I congratulate you on your decision to sever your love and return to rationality after two years of unrequited love for someone, and not to fly a moth to the fire for someone you shouldn't have loved. "Because you have adhered to the bottom line and restrained your emotions, it indicates that you are not confused inside and have not lost the principle of right and wrong, which is also your luck.". After all, the person who haunts you belongs to another woman, not your dish.
Secondly, you need to understand that you are a person with a boyfriend. You need to ask yourself whether you really love your boyfriend or not, and what exactly do you want with your boyfriend? If you are not satisfied with your boyfriend, don't force yourself to occupy a position, otherwise, it will be very unfair to your boyfriend.
In addition, you still need to face your heart directly now. In fact, it is still difficult for you to let go of your secret love object, and you still feel reluctant to part with it. At the moment, I think you are also very dangerous. If you hesitate a little, it is easy to make a big mistake. Fortunately, you have decided to leave your job, and I hope you will not contact him again after leaving the company. No matter how much you like him or how uncomfortable you feel inside, you must bite your teeth and hold on. Believe in the power of time, and you will surely walk out of this pain slowly as time goes by. In fact, your current affection for the man with a family is not necessarily rational and mature, but just a temporary attraction. That man may not be as good as you think, so don't waste your energy and thoughts on an impossible relationship. It's really not worth it. Instead, you should bury that feeling deep in your heart and turn it into a driving force for love. Love the person you should love well. I wish you an early exit from the struggle and harvest happiness.
