Post Date December, 03 2023
My husband and I got married last year, and our relationship is still relatively stable. The marriage is also relatively happy, and my husband is also considerate. Basically, I think we are relatively satisfied with this marriage.
Mr. A once had a failed marriage. Due to his ex-wife having an affair with her boss, although he had given her some opportunities, she still resolutely wanted a divorce and left him. In the end, the husband signed a divorce agreement, and their daughter was raised by her ex-wife.
I also had some understanding of the above situations before marriage, and my husband admitted to me that he had already made an agreement with his ex-wife at the time of divorce to spend two weekends every month with his daughter. At that time, I also felt that this was a matter of no fault. After all, there was a blood relationship, and the child was still so young. Regular contact with her father can help her grow better. I support my husband very much, It is also encouraged that teachers can bring their children home when they have free time.
But it has to be said that it is possible that one only knows how to cherish after losing something. My husband's ex-wife has always been calling him since she learned about his marriage to me. He is afraid of causing me misunderstandings and has been keeping it from me for a long time. As he has done so many times, he has been discovered by me.
My husband also told me that my ex-wife was not with her boss after the divorce, and she is still single. Every time my ex-wife calls my husband, it's about the children. My husband thinks it's about the children, so he always follows my ex-wife's requirements.
When I learned the truth, I also felt that I could understand the inconvenience of a woman carrying a child, so I asked my husband to help her ex-wife if he could. However, I didn't know my generosity, but it created a greater appetite for her. Every time I asked my husband to help her fix the water pipe or change the light bulb, or it was all kinds of small things.
Until Friday evening, almost 12 o'clock, her ex-wife called and said that her lock was broken. She hoped that her husband could help her open the door. Upon hearing this, I immediately became angry and told her that you were not a locksmith, so it was no use going there. She asked her to find a locksmith to solve it herself.
At that time, my husband didn't pay attention to me and was very angry about my unkindness. In fact, I didn't want to be reasonable and considerate, but every time his ex-wife called, no matter what he was busy with at the time, he would put aside his work and rush to help, never thinking about my feelings.
I feel a headache. I really don't know how to continue my marriage with my husband regarding their estranged relationship and their neglect of me.
Yanan:
The maintenance of marriage not only requires the tolerance of both parties, but also requires communication and mutual understanding between the couple in order to make the marriage go further and better.
You mentioned that your husband's ex-wife always calls you, and you also think it's possible that her ex-wife only learned about her past beauty after losing it, which is envy of your current life with your husband. Therefore, she hopes to disrupt your marriage or regain your husband's attention, which is not impossible.
So, considering the current situation, you should communicate with your husband more about your feelings and opinions about the current situation. You should also share your feelings and opinions about the pain caused by your ex wife's constant harassment of your married life with your husband, as well as your husband's excessive attention to his ex wife's affairs, which may cause you to feel neglected. You can all inform your husband so that he can understand why you have such emotions, Why do you take such actions? It can help you and your husband resolve any conflicts or misunderstandings between you.
Secondly, you should also know that ex wives and children objectively exist. It's not that if I don't look, listen, or think, this matter will disappear. This is an ostrich mentality, and you need to understand that avoiding can't solve any problem. Only by facing it and solving it can this problem disappear from its root.
So what you most need to do now is to learn to trust and close your eyes on certain things, but the premise of closing your eyes is that you need to tell your husband where your bottom line is, so that you can better help others and maintain your marriage.
