Post Date December, 03 2023
According to the US Huffington Post, the popular US TV series "House of Cards", which is known as the "Legend of Zhen Huan in the US", is loved and sought after by Chinese netizens. The story of the US president and the first lady secretly seeking help from marriage counselors in the show has aroused curiosity about marriage counselors. So, what kind of help and benefits can we get from a marriage counselor? Below is a summary of four points.
Firstly, it helps you gain wisdom and skills in resolving conflicts.
There is no couple who doesn't argue, and of course, a 100% perfect marriage won't exist. When we talk to a marriage counselor about the difficulties we face, we can also learn many ways to solve disputes. For example, a marriage counselor may remind couples what beneficial attitudes they should exhibit and what actions they should take to promote communication when facing significant disagreements. A marriage counselor will first teach you how to be a listener, and then teach you how to reach a marital consensus.
Secondly, help you calm down and engage in a rational conversation.
Haste makes waste is an unchanging truth, especially when there are differences in the values and other general directions of both spouses, patient communication and effort are needed to understand each other. However, when there is such a big conflict between two people, it is usually impossible to sit quietly and try to understand the other person's mentality in an attempt to reconcile. Having a professional marriage counselor present at this time is more conducive to resolving differences. Sometimes solving problems does not require advanced knowledge, all it requires is patient communication, and the mediating role played by marriage counselors in this regard is crucial.
Thirdly, to help you avoid malicious language that can lead to irreparable consequences.
When conflicts arise, try to maintain restraint, at least speak up and avoid personal attacks and meaningless verbal abuse. However, this is also difficult to achieve between some couples. At this point, the marriage is on the brink of rupture. Even if the two's problems are not at the level of marital breakdown, it is easy to hurt the relationship due to malicious language, which makes the marriage irreparable. At this point, a marriage counselor can help both parties put the key issues in their marriage on the table, spread them out, discuss on the basis of love, and learn to empathize.
Fourthly, to help you minimize your fear and anxiety about marriage.
Trust is an important foundation for a mature marriage, and it is necessary to find a professional to make an objective judgment on each other's relationship. After all, even if two people exercise restraint, they will inevitably make some subjective inappropriate actions, and marriage counselors can make appropriate diagnoses of the client's marital relationship from a third-party perspective. You can confidently confide in them your concerns about marriage. In the American drama "House of Cards", there is a plot where marriage counselors have a legal obligation to ensure the security of client privacy, whether targeting the president or the general public. With the continuous improvement of laws and people's emphasis on professional ethics, marriage counselors will become one of the important methods for people to mediate marital conflicts.
