Post Date November, 16 2024
What are the misconceptions about sex? Sexual activity is something that couples can enjoy, but due to some self righteous actions, it can actually make each other feel uneasy. So what are the misconceptions about sex? In order to solve your confusion.
Sexual misconceptions
Everyone has their own way of dealing with people, and many people feel that the best way to get along with someone is to feel comfortable. The same goes for sexual life between couples. No matter what posture you use, as long as the other person feels comfortable and happy, it's good. It could have made the other person feel comfortable, but because of your own cleverness, it has the opposite effect. Do you know what you do during sex to make your partner feel upset?
Sexual misconceptions that men may make:
1. Of course: the more developed my muscles are, the more my sexual partner will like it. Many men blindly pursue a good figure, but not for the sake of health. In their imagination, the stronger their muscles, the more they can please their partner in bed.
However, research has shown that muscular men are not the best sexual partner most women choose, and having well-developed muscles is more to satisfy men's own vanity.
In fact, the most ideal female lover's figure is: gentle eyes, long limbs, soft and elastic skin, biceps brachii and pectoralis major should not be overdeveloped.
2. Of course: Striving to extend the sex time would make me very hardworking. As a pilot of a civil aviation plane, I try to extend the sex time as much as possible after every flight. The foreplay and afterplay are added for 2-3 hours, and the time to enter the theme is no less than one hour.
This may sound like his wife's happiness to others, but this woman complains that prolonged sexual activity has exhausted her physical strength. However, her husband is very unhappy because he has learned that women's orgasm is slower than men's, so the longer the sexual activity, the easier it is for women to achieve orgasm. Therefore, he always tries his best to extend the sexual activity time.
The problem lies in the public's misconception about the process of obtaining orgasm. Women's orgasm is not achieved later than men's, but rather passively. If you are an experienced sex maker, it takes a few minutes to find a woman's G-spot, A-spot, and U-spot and quickly bring her to orgasm.
In addition, even if men are not as enthusiastic and proactive, women will quickly reach orgasm when they find a suitable position. And prolonged sexual activity intentionally aimed at pursuing a woman's orgasm, in addition to causing physical fatigue, is often accompanied by male partners? Are you comfortable? In the eyes of women, such deliberate actions can lead to rebellious emotions, and the upcoming orgasm is also suppressed due to psychological factors.
Once orgasm is suppressed during a sexual encounter, it is difficult to regain it. For men, deliberately prolonging their sexual intercourse time and having no time to enjoy the true pleasure of sex is truly more than worth the loss. Some women say that muscular men are more likely to associate them with sexual violence and rough sexual techniques.
A large proportion of women also admit that they dislike muscle men the least because they are often subconsciously narcissistic. They hope to have a better figure in bed than men. When muscle men appear in front of them, they often immediately feel inferior and fearful, and the subsequent sexual activity becomes dull and uninteresting.
3. Of course: It's very attractive for men to swear in bed
In real life, there are also many men who are fond of using foul language during sex, and even joking about their sexual organs and performance for pleasure. They think it's very masculine and interesting, but they don't know that most women detest it. It's just that in the environment of sex, they can't immediately raise objections, but they may feel a hint of displeasure in their hearts. Over time, this displeasure has become the most terrifying hidden danger.
Sex experts tell us that only a small number of women like to be treated harshly in bed, and most women hope that men are strong, strong, reliable, gentle and skilled in bed, and understand moderation. Although this wish is idealistic, anyone can imagine that as long as this woman has no major psychological issues, she would not be willing to be called a bitch, no matter in any situation, in bed.
Sexual misconceptions that women may make:
1. Only by working hard to manage a bed room can sex be perfect.
Perhaps this is the most common mistake we make. In fact, if sexual life is deliberately managed, it cannot truly integrate the body and mind into it. For example, Lanxin always wants to showcase her best image to her lover, including in the bedroom, trying to keep her hair smooth and her lips red and cheeks fragrant, so that her husband only wants to see from afar and has no sex at all. Of course, from another perspective, if you are too busy thinking about how to move your body, how to touch the other person, and how to observe their feelings, then you will definitely not have much happiness yourself. Experts believe that the most beautiful sex is when the body and mind are completely free from distractions and fully immerse themselves in it.
2. Prolonging foreplay or afterplay can greatly reduce sexual interest.
Many people believe that sex should always be improvised. In fact, in a busy and tense life and work, it is difficult for us to have leisure and leisure to wait for the natural desires that arise. Therefore, simply waiting can only make the beautiful time we should have quietly pass away. Although many experts do not advocate predetermined sexual behavior, they advocate setting aside time for beautiful sex. Imagine how long it takes you to prepare a dish? Although sex that satisfies you is not about the length of time, but the joy of the process, if the time is too short to share each other's feelings, then sex is just a mechanical action. Foreplay is particularly important for increasing sexual interest. You can bathe with your husband. When helping him apply bubbles all over his body, he will definitely have a strange feeling. Beautiful Ming said that every time she takes a shower, she asks her husband to help her flush the water. At that time, Ming always had a kind of joy and excitement slowly rising in her heart.
3. Women who are too independent and autonomous can make men impotent.
Lanxin is not only charming and versatile, but also a successful female white-collar worker. While Lanxin's career is thriving, their originally beloved couple's life has gone wrong. After several failures between the beds, the husband became extremely frustrated. One night, he even suggested to Lanxin to split the bed and sleep. After Lan Xin was shocked, she felt that it was because she was too strong that she caused her husband's sexual impotence.
But that's not the case. The 'failure' of men may be composed of multiple factors. The independence and autonomy of women is a charm for men. From a man's perspective, the most attractive women are those who show enthusiasm and positivity towards sex. A woman who does not put any effort into sex and only passively fulfills the obligation of sexual intercourse will make her husband sexually impotent.
4. Sex should always be the most perfect and passionate communication between two people's hearts and bodies.
In real life, sex can be various, gentle, wild, enduring, fleeting, good, and bad. Therefore, if we are discouraged and distressed by what we have experienced that is not as good as we imagined, it will only deprive us of the joy we already have, and we will endlessly feel powerless and unsuccessful. Therefore, accepting and facing our sexual love with a normal mindset will prevent us from being surrounded by pain and confusion.
5. Being frank about your feelings will make the other person feel that you are too open.
Many women have this inherent misconception, which in turn deprives them of a lot of sexual pleasure. Think about it, are you also shy about expressing your feelings? Rong is a lady like woman who has been married for 5 years and her sexual life with her husband is as natural as a weekend. But one night, my husband suddenly told Rong that we should leave for a while. Rong Yan asked angrily with tears in her eyes, 'Why?'? Isn't everything okay with us? The husband hesitated for a moment and lowered his head, saying, 'We lack communication, including in bed. You are always silent, and I...' Feeling bored.
Experts believe that only when both parties openly express their feelings can sex be filled with freshness. Many women who encounter difficulties in marriage always believe that men's empathy for others is mostly due to their growing aversion to themselves. But in fact, only a lack of understanding of you, a lack of engagement, and a lack of enthusiasm for each other's relationships are the main reasons for sexual fatigue. Most couples follow a certain pattern every time they have sex, because they both know which method is most likely to make each other feel happy; But once sex becomes a routine without the need to put in effort to innovate, it can make people feel bored.
6. Women are never as interested in sex as men.
This misconception often stems from the traditional education we have received since childhood, which is that girls need to suppress their sexual desire while encouraging boys to vent. Many experts believe that women's response to sexual stimulation far exceeds that of men. In addition, if the body is healthy and has enough time and energy, women's sexual desire is generally higher than that of men.
7. If you use contraception, it will make him unhappy.
Women with this mindset often tend to be selfless, thinking only about satisfying their husbands with happiness, but forgetting how difficult it is to bear the pain and helplessness. My friend Qi once again told me that when she went to the hospital for an induced abortion surgery, I couldn't help but sigh. Four consecutive physical and mental pains have made Ah Qi's face haggard, and I have nothing to say. I just want to tell Ah Qi: Can I take some responsibility for myself? If he truly loves you, he will definitely understand your actions.
8. If you always face a sexual partner, you will grow tired for a long time.
Most couples follow a certain pattern every time they have sex, but once sex becomes a routine, it can lead to boredom. Therefore, experts suggest that only by openly expressing their feelings can sex be filled with freshness. For example, when feeling sad and depressed, the speed of sexual activity can be slower, and some hugging and caressing movements can also be added; If it is purely to meet physiological needs, simply engage in it. No matter how you feel, as long as you confess to each other, there will always be different feelings between the beds.
