As early as 1996, the UK conducted a survey and analysis of asexual marriage. According to this scientific study, the definition of asexual marriage is that couples engage in sexual activity less than 10 times a year. This scientific study found that about 20% of couples in this situation. In 2003, a survey and research report by the Sexual Social Psychology Research Office of Renmin University on asexual marriage emphasized that more than a quarter of married or cohabiting men and women did not even have enough daily life once a month.
The data information tells everyone that the current social development of asexual marriage has become a trend and has brought huge challenges to marriage life. That was not the original intention of God in creating marital life at that time, because he hoped that this couple would unify their body and mind through sex and intimacy in their marital life.
The vast majority of couples, especially those who get married due to love, have an active and mysterious marital life at the time of marriage, with intimate relationships. But usually after two or three years, they have become asexual couples.
Many couples focus on their children after giving birth, neglecting the marital relationship between the couple. Everyone often asks their wives in marital life lectures: which is more important, the relationship with children or the relationship between husband and wife? Many children answered. Everyone must change this mindset and prioritize marital relationships. Because there is a good relationship between husband and wife, it is best to cultivate children to lead by example. Modern couples face too much work pressure and often prioritize their intimate time behind taking care of their children, earning money from work, accompanying their parents, grandparents, and communicating. No wonder they don't have such intimate time.
I still have roommates today
Example: Madam exclaimed with emotion: In just two months, everyone will have been married for three years and have no children yet. I suddenly realized that I haven't been intimate with the elderly for six months. I still remember going on a honeymoon trip to Hawaii in the United States, and at the beginning, everyone enjoyed and passionate about their newlywed life. Today, everyone lost their attention and became roommates.
I don't even believe it, how did it evolve? I only know that everyone has been very busy. I am a criminal defense lawyer and often work after 8 pm. My old husband is a resident doctor, and his working hours are often reversed day and night. Everyone likes their work, so they often give up their time at work. Over the past three years, everyone has had the opportunity to be intimate. However, it is puzzling that the chances of everyone being intimate are getting lower and lower, and the old man doesn't seem to care. But I still look forward to the feeling of intimacy and psychological interconnectedness in my work experience, otherwise it seems like I will lose something in life.
Case 2: An elderly gentleman is thinking: We have been married for nearly 23 years, and have just entered the empty nest period. The emotions and control of the couple have been stagnant. In a marital relationship, my wife never thinks about me, only thinks about herself. Every time I muster the courage to rule with her, over 90% of them are rejected. In this often unthinkable situation, I understand that I cannot do things that betray my immediate family members, nor can I resist divorce. But I don't know how to continue in such a situation where there is basically no marital relationship. I want to ask, what should I do?
Case 3: A 45 year old lady, due to a work relationship, has been separated from her husband and wife for a long time, so asexual marriage has already existed. Although I have been transferred to work together now, it is still the same because my husband has already married a relatively young woman outside and has lost interest in my wife. However, in order to avoid harming my child's ordinary high school studies, I have maintained this true marriage life. This situation often occurs, firstly, there is no lifelong surrender or commitment to marriage life, secondly, there is no learning how to manage marriage before and after marriage, and even sexual marriage relationships are abandoned and ignored.
How to treat asexual marriage? Next, everyone can discuss and think about how to treat asexual marriage together. Here are everyone's suggestions:
Mastering marital life is a job, and even if it's a job, couples need to manage it together. The incompatibility between the elderly and the intimate relationship between husband and wife (Example 2) requires good communication with the wife and cannot be blamed or criticized. The most important thing is to understand why she always refuses your regulations, and then find a decision that both parties are satisfied with. For example, the rejection is due to physiological issues, and everyone must consult a gynecologist. If it is a psychological problem, it is important to seek guidance and assistance from a technical professional. And if it's due to a relationship, it's important to start with it, because sexual intimacy between couples is a widening of intimacy in life. The elderly must also reflect on whether they have made the mistake of not showing care and love to their wives during the day, and even blaming them everywhere; But it was only at night that tenderness was highlighted and the marriage relationship was established. I hope this mentality stipulates intimacy and will naturally be rejected. As an elderly person, he must learn to communicate with his wife in daily life, master her, help her, obey her, and create intimate relationships. With this foundation, sexual intimacy naturally arises.
The benefits of predetermined sexual intimacy
When everyone is willing and marriage must be managed together, the next step is to try booking sexual intimacy. Simply put, on a regular schedule, no matter how busy you are, plan ahead and allocate your time first. Both parties don't have to guess, so we can serve each other and enjoy ourselves.
There are many benefits in advance:
I am no longer afraid of being rejected: everyone is well aware that if the old gentleman is often rejected in these aspects, not only will his self-esteem be damaged, but he will also feel very uncomfortable inside. An appointment can help the other party make sufficient preparations in advance, especially when the wife usually needs more time to prepare herself. Booking can also bring excitement to couples, just like parents agreeing to take their children to the zoo on Saturdays and buy them ice cream; They have been eagerly anticipating it for a week. Sexual intimacy booking also has the same practical effect.
Boosting impulse: Due to the significant difference in sexual desire between couples, one partner often has sexual desire while the other does not. Booking can address this challenge, enhance the impulse towards immediate family members, give each other time to prepare in advance (especially the wife), and enhance the intimacy between couples.
Promoting physical and mental integration between couples: allowing couples to have all normal and sustained sexual intimacy. This can not only consider each other, but also promote the connection between the soul and the soul. This is the original intention of the Creator to create male and marital life.
To achieve harmonious marital relationships, both parties must have a very mature situation. Couples should consider each other with a sincere attitude and show concern for their immediate family members in daily life.