Sexual Health
Uncover the psychological truth that middle-aged men are prone to extramarital affairs
Extramarital affairs originate from dissatisfaction within marriage
Chen Fen (not her real name) recently found her husband Lin Qiang (not her real name) looking for money outside. As the chairman of a large company, Chen Fen couldn't understand why her husband was looking for other women because of her talent and beauty. Under the guidance of the psychologist, Lin Qiang told the truth: facing the wife of a strong woman, he often felt inferior, especially when his wife brought the chairman's posture to the home and talked to him like a child, he felt more like a man, and naturally he was not interested in the life of husband and wife. Only when he "went out" did he feel that he was a man and was satisfied physically and psychologically.
Xu Zhizhi, deputy director of the institute, said that the lack of communication between husband and wife and the failure to reflect their dissatisfaction to their spouses have caused psychological obstacles for men. When they cannot get sexual satisfaction from their spouses, extramarital affairs are inevitable. Lin Qiang has psychological problems and expects to be satisfied from other women. He suggested that as a woman, she should distinguish between the roles of work and family to avoid hurting the confidence of the other party and affecting the relationship between husband and wife.
Marriage also needs preservation
Huang Dan (not her real name) has been married for many years without children. She can't do housework, but the relationship between husband and wife is very good. The secret she revealed is: always let him have a fresh feeling! "I have my own business. First of all, I don't need to rely on my husband economically. And I constantly improve myself and appropriately show my excellence in front of my husband's friends and colleagues. My husband feels very proud and has always been obedient to me."
It is understood that many extramarital affairs occur in the middle age of men. At this time, female estrogen secretion decreases with the increase of age, or it has reached menopause, which brings unhappiness to sexual life, and men cannot be satisfied.
Xu Zhizhi, deputy director of the Institute, believes that modern people have a high probability of having an affair due to their wide communication, many social engagements, relatively many external temptations (pictures and articles), and weak sexual concepts. As a woman, she should know how to inject fresh feelings into marriage, use her wisdom to create an atmosphere of love, improve herself from personal cultivation, dress and other aspects, and maintain her attraction to men. "A wise woman should know how to control a man's heart and let him want to see through you, but not through you." He also said, "As a man, you must also know self-discipline and use morality to restrain your behavior."
Many factors affect "sexual interest"
Wang Xu (pseudonym) is a staff member of an organ. He has been married for many years and has no children. Recently, his wife found out that he had an affair. Several times of communication not only failed to solve the problem, but also caused a big quarrel. The marriage almost collapsed. Wang Xu said that his marriage was accomplished by "the order of his parents". His wife was beautiful but not "sexy" in his eyes.
"What kind of women a man can have 'sexual interest' is affected by many factors, such as family background, personality, experience, and even the influence of the previous generation of parents, which may affect their judgments and feelings about women." Xu Zhizhi, deputy director of the institute, said that different men have different understanding of "sex". For example, Wang Xu, a slim wife is not a manifestation of female sexuality for him, so he can't mention his sexual interest.
He said that men tend to have higher demand for sex than women. When the sex in marriage is not satisfied, they often seek satisfaction through other ways. "When the husband has an extramarital affair, as a woman, she should first find the problem within the marriage, rather than through quarrels, surveillance, or the practice of letting relatives and friends judge easily." He reminded that finding the root cause through the hospital doctor is also one of the solutions.