Post Date December, 02 2023
Sexual satisfaction is something that couples aspire to. The reason why sexual problems often occur is that there is a problem with the marital system, which goes against the system's behavioral patterns and is a interruption or obstacle to communication between partners. When our main sexual organs and brain cannot function according to marital sexual morality, sexual disorders can occur. Sexual morality should be endless, flowing, leisurely, and relaxed. Sexual morality may vary from person to person, but there are always some common patterns.
Who should initiate sexual activity? Some couples are accustomed to the division of roles within marriage, and everything is in order. Actually, this is not good. Some wives always feel that they are fully responsible for their sexual life. They say, "If I don't mention this, there won't be sex between us. I have to worry about guessing when he needs it, and I really need it myself, but I dare not say it." Some husbands also believe that sex is determined by men, as long as they are happy, they don't even consider the other person's mood and physical condition, I even have a strong aversion to my wife's proactive needs. Without realizing the natural rhythmic changes in the marriage system and striving to adapt to them.
In marriage, one should allow and tolerate different emotional reactions at different times, but should not be too in sync or completely out of balance. Wives may feel that they are in a tragic state of loneliness in their marriage, completely submissive to the interests of their children, only passive and submissive in sexual relationships, and their emotional reactions do not resonate with their husbands; Husbands always feel that their wives are not considerate enough of themselves, indifferent to marital affairs, and energetic in activities unrelated to marriage. It is a natural and normal phenomenon for couples to have different thoughts, preferences, and pursuits in sexual life.
How sexual activity regulates sexual activity should have a certain rhythm, but it is not constant and varies with factors such as both parties' emotions, sexual desire, physical condition, and environmental conditions. Marriage itself is like a voltage regulator or thermostat. When two parties argue, one party can help the other party cool down and reduce stress, in order to recover to the state before the argument as soon as possible; One party can also drive the other when both parties need emotional support, warming up and pressuring the other. Sexual life is the same, and there should be a regulatory mechanism to achieve an appropriate balance between the needs and satisfaction of both parties. For example, sexual activity after arguments often dissipates each other's anger; For example, when one party is in a low mood, sex and intimacy often make them feel happy, safe, and better able to face difficulties and challenges.
Generally speaking, when a husband is young, he needs his wife to occasionally cool down his overheated sexual response; When the wife is young, she needs her husband to help her warm up, and he needs to be sensitive to her needs and be able to accurately sense her "sexual pulse". In short, this regulation function has a certain range, and overloaded or abnormal operation is not advisable.
