Post Date December, 03 2023
Every young couple yearns and yearns for the congenial feelings between husband and wife. However, the reality is always cruel. It is a common problem for couples to quarrel with each other. No matter how good the relationship is, two people will quarrel sometimes. So, what should couples do to live a harmonious and happy life? Perhaps the most important thing is to learn tolerance.
As the saying goes, "endure the calm wind and calm waves for a while, and take a step back". The same is true of the way couples get along. No matter when, we should tolerate each other's shortcomings and understand each other's difficulties. Only in this way can we turn war into friendship and make the relationship between husband and wife stronger and the love more lasting.
Du Fei and Lv Peng got the certificate two years after graduation from university. Lv Peng once felt regretful after marriage. Because Du Fei became very tricky after marriage, he likes to pick on Lv Peng when he has nothing to do after work every day, and he always makes small things bigger and makes the family fly.
In the face of this situation, Lv Peng also reflected. After all, he did have many problems, such as not like to wash before going to bed, like to litter socks, smelly, lazy and so on. However, when faced with Du Fei's broken thoughts, Lu Peng could not calm down. The more harsh his wife criticized him, he felt that he was not immortal. Then a family war began quietly.
This lasted less than three years. Finally, the two chose to divorce peacefully. After the divorce, Du Fei married a businessman and Lu Peng married a white-collar worker. After remarriage, Du Fei was not happy, because she found that her second husband and Lv Peng had many similar problems. They were not clean and untidy at home, so family disputes began to repeat.
However, after remarriage, Lv Peng was very happy. His current wife never expanded his shortcomings again. Every time Lv Peng "made mistakes", he always told him gently that he should not do so. Lv Peng was also willing to accept his wife's advice and slowly change his bad habits. Over time, Lv Peng became more and more excellent, and the relationship between him and his current wife became stronger and stronger.
Love must be tolerant when doing wrong
No one is perfect. There are times in life when people make mistakes. As his lover, don't cling to his shortcomings. There are no people who have no shortcomings or make no mistakes in life. They should also treat their wives or husbands in this way. Mistakes are inevitable. As long as the lovers recognize their shortcomings and are willing to correct them, they should be tolerant. Don't talk about each other's faults all day long and expose each other's scars easily. This is not only bad for the lover to correct their faults, but also easy to hurt the feelings between husband and wife.
Transposition thinking can make people learn tolerance
Since two people choose to become a husband and wife, it means that they accepted each other at the beginning, including interests, hobbies, habits, etc. However, it is inevitable that there are some differences between two people who love and understand each other. If there is something wrong with the other that you cannot accept, you can adopt the way of empathy to accommodate the other.
In China, the wife is the pivot and lubricant of family and friend relations. She should be able to handle the delicate relationships between various family members, care for and care for the elders, and build a warm harbor for her husband, not a stumbling block. The husband should take more responsibility for family development, have a strong sense of career, work hard for his own career, and become a strong dependence of his wife and the umbrella of his family. Both wife and husband need each other's care and nourishment. Each time there is a quarrel, both sides should think in a different position, understand each other's difficulties, and understand their inner feelings at the moment, so as to make the love between husband and wife more lasting.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
