Everyone's heart is full of young children. This is certainly not a real "child", but a psychological "child". In that part, you still think that you are naive and young, and use your existing experience to deal with the current situation, allowing you to make choices based on the previously formed world outlook and the expectations of others in the sensitive period of youth.
However, contact with these "children" is not always bad. On the contrary, it is a wonderful trait to play and take risks like children at any age. But when your subconscious is dealing with something that is boring but has to face, this may be another situation.
If your parents are not 100% perfect parents (in fact, 99% parents are not), you must have some needs that can not be met. These dissatisfaction may be the cause of problems in your current relationship.
Try this simple and fast test method: when conflicts arise, set aside the actual situation in front of you and ask yourself if that feeling is familiar. If the answer is yes, recall when you first experienced that feeling.
Another clue is to pay attention to whether you fall into a familiar behavior circle every time you are in love or interacting with different people. Pay special attention to whether you like to use sentences like "you always" and "you never". Because this is really not a good habit, it is mixed with too much dissatisfaction in the past. On the other hand, it also provides clues for you to find out the root of your core problem.
Of course, not everything can be explained from your childhood (I am a mother myself, so I am a little reluctant to always put all the responsibilities on my parents). You may say that your childhood was wonderful, and your relationship with your parents was also very good. Later, you married a childhood sweetheart who never had more than half a disagreement. If so, I'd like to congratulate you first and ask you to contact the local media, because there is no doubt that I want to interview you.
Lost love
Strictly speaking, it may have nothing to do with your parents, and it's no wonder that the first, second or third fool hurt your heart. The point is that you should make clear whether the problem you are facing is really caused by you two, or is it the result of the foreshadowing and intensification laid by others?
When the conflict intensifies, try to find the hidden deep-seated reasons in the subconscious to ensure that you are really in the "problem of two people", exclude all other people, and close the door to find solutions together.
If you and your lover are rational enough to share these findings, don't use the tone of "Do you know why I hate you? Because you are like other women (men)!", but "I think our problem is not just in the current situation, but probably because of...". But if this idea makes you want to vomit, I suggest you don't try it. Go back to the initial problem with your friends or see a doctor.
If you can make efforts on the pure "two person problem" soberly at that moment, you will find that dealing with all differences becomes simple and fast, and the rest is ready to enjoy sweet love.