Post Date December, 02 2023
Many boys always think it's crucial to make an appointment. But making an appointment is actually not as important as everyone thinks. The focus of a relationship between men and women is on measuring and warming. So the whole process should focus on how to measure the distance between two people, and how to increase their curiosity and interest in themselves (which is why I am taking a good guy card
The so-called degree of involvement in the book. Blogs to link here). Making an appointment is only a small part of the entire pursuit process, and even relying solely on Line and FB at the remote end can also attract interest from each other. However, if a boy is too concerned about getting an appointment quickly, he may get the key points wrong and easily become self-defeating.
I would like to share an important concept here - the important actions we take in life should have meaning. Meaning refers to two things:
1. Well, this behavior can bring clear rewards.
Otherwise, this action is a valuable experiment - it can help me judge something.
If this concept is too abstract for some readers, let me take a business decision as an example.
We often see many restaurants offering big discounts during the first few days of opening. There are any ten yuan set meal, one yuan full meal, or even queuing up to eat for free. There are often long lines outside the store, and there are even too many people fighting and fighting in order to grab the queue.
But in my opinion, restaurants should not use this strategy at all. The discount for free snacks is good, but the free solicitation method is not right. Although it seems that many people have come, these crowded phenomena actually only bring a pile of information that makes operators confused.
This means that because of the popularity of discounts, you cannot determine whether the restaurant is really popular! Although the entire store is crowded and people are still lining up outside, is it because they like the taste of my food or just because of the attractiveness of low prices? If you come for a discount, how many people will stay when there is no discount? "These are the most important information for subsequent operations, and because of low discounts, it becomes completely impossible to judge.".
Worse still, a few days before the opening ceremony, many processes in the store were not smooth, so the service might not be very good when a crowd of people crowded in. Some things that everyone wanted to order might have insufficient stock, unclear movement lines, improper division of labor, resulting in poor service, and the portion design of packages might be inappropriate. The opening ceremony was originally a suitable time to make process adjustments. However, when an excessive number of people squeeze in, on the one hand, it increases the probability of errors, and on the other hand, the shop assistant may be busy and may not have time to review the process. As a result, if the guests who are attracted at low prices are not satisfied with their food, they will not come next time; The wrong process may continue to be used. In other words, low price discounts not only make less money for the store, but also worsen the quality of the finished product, and also reduce the chance of customers returning.
As a result, the popularity has not been established, the testing process for the trial operation cannot be done, the menu attempt cannot receive feedback, it is not known whether the price will be too high, and it is not related to whether the guests will be stable and return to the pot. Isn't this action meaningless?
This is the so-called "no harm without benefit". Apart from the false impression that the store was bustling the other day, the new store owners who took the low-price approach finally got nothing. It's better to try the original price first for the opening ceremony, and a small number of incoming guests should try their views on the taste first. There are not many people, and the chef even has a way to come out and chat with them. "After determining the price, quantity, and service that can support frequent customer gatherings, consider adopting an appropriate amount"
"I'm afraid that's what makes sense if the discount is exposed.".
The same concept applies to reducibility.
If you are inviting under the guise of a group of people. "The other person has come out, and you have not obtained any meaningful basis for judgment.". "You don't know whether the other person accepted the invitation because they liked you, or because the event was fun, or even because the group you were dating had people they liked.". Isn't this noise causing trouble in interpretation?
Some people will say, "I hope to ask her out to chat with her and establish a connection!"! "Then you have to make sure that you are the only attractive or interesting person in this group, otherwise it is likely that she will be stuck with others throughout the activity.". "As a result, I was tired for a long time, and you had a successful activity, but still didn't establish a connection with her.". (Alright, let's think a little bit, at least your activity planning ability is up...)
In short, although the other person appears, you have not benefited from it - neither have you successfully brought yourself closer to him; I haven't measured her opinion of you. This action is an invalid action. It's better to have a one-on-one appointment with the other party for a mundane event. The other party refuses, at least it is clear that the other party is not interested in me. "If the other party nods, it indicates that the other party has a higher probability because they are willing to come out with me.".
Some guys even invite each other out, but they don't actually follow suit; It is a single point of action without a complete strategy. I just hope to see her more in a group of people, or feel satisfied if I can talk to her for a word or two. "But I have to say that if you don't face the challenge directly, you will never be able to understand the other person's thoughts, and you will only be able to maintain this confusing situation.". How regrettable is it that you sigh as time goes on and she has a boyfriend?
In fact, not only is it an invitation, but every step of any interpersonal relationship should not be dominated by emotions. Whether this emotion is fear, avoidance, shyness, inferiority complex, or even a feeling of adoration or wanting to guard from afar. You must have the ability to control your emotions and allow yourself to make rational analysis from the overall situation - clarify your position, measure the distance between two people through methods and words, and then adopt an appropriate attitude. This way, we don't hurt ourselves, and we can make others feel comfortable with us.
