Post Date December, 02 2023
Once I saw marriage as dirt, but now marriage sees me as dirt. " This is the true state of mind of many forty - diamond kings. When they focus on the young woman in her twenties and disdain the old woman in her thirties, they do not know that they have become an antique in the marriage market.
The women's singles in their 30s always lament that they can't find a man who can "hand over" themselves with confidence. why? The men's singles around are either too small or too big. The former is "post 80s", and the latter is "post 60s".
If a boy in his twenties feels insecure because of his childishness, then a single man in his 40s or so is like an old house that has been idle for too long - dim lights, chaotic furnishings, tangled spider webs and dilapidated beams, which will make women feel afraid of being trapped in a "black hole". This is the reality of the older marriage market.
When the "leftover women" have emancipated their minds and learned to enjoy the wonderful things alone, the 40 "leftover men" are under the pressure of society, parents and colleagues, and are in an unprecedented marital anxiety, becoming the real "marriage maniacs". "I used to treat marriage as dirt, but now marriage treats me as dirt." This is the true mentality of many forty diamond kings. When they focus on the young woman in her twenties and disdain the old woman in her thirties, they do not know that they have become an antique in the marriage market.
How do men miss the "wedding season"? Most of it is because of blind optimism. He blindly believes that "forty-one flowers for men" are more valuable as they get older. It is this confidence that makes him feel that the woman in front of him is not good enough. He either enjoys the love around him happily, or lives a single life at ease, while secretly waiting for the appearance of a woman who is both charming and virtuous, even if there is no such woman in the world.
The more ambitious a man is, the more likely he is to suffer from love blindness and arrogance. The motive force of men's love is "sex", not "love". Driven by reason, men's understanding of love may stay at the level of sex for a long time, while ignoring love. Especially when a man has better economic conditions, he has a lot of opportunities to squander the expensive but low-quality "love" provided by beautiful women. But sex is not. It is innate to men.
Therefore, men who are addicted to sex excessively will lose themselves more than women who are addicted to love. Once a man is romantic, he will be a hundred times better than a woman. At this time, "love" has become the poison of men. The other extreme is that some older young men have no love experience when they reach the age of "no doubt", so they don't know what life is. Once a man is too shy or insensitive to love, or his sexual desire is not strong enough, he may regard his work or career as a "lover". Over time, women and life became the blank of his life.
