Post Date December, 03 2023
Once married, everyone hopes to protect their marriage for a lifetime. In fact, not every couple's marriage can achieve their wishes. They expand their quarrels and complaints infinitely, putting their marriage life on the brink of crisis.
Experts said that the ideal marriage temperature should be around 37 degrees Celsius. Such couples have quarrels and troubles in their marriage life, but they can respect each other, understand each other, resolve their conflicts in appropriate ways, and make each other as good as before.
Take my personal case for example, when I first fell in love, I always took the most common way to deal with women after quarreling with my husband: crying and making noise, and his heart softened, so he naturally raised his hand and surrendered. But after marriage, this move is no longer easy to use. No matter how I cry, he is indifferent and still does his own thing.
Later, I felt very aggrieved, but I calmed down and reflected on my mistakes. If the cold war with my husband lasted for a long time, everyone would not be happy. Why bother me? When I think like this, I will think of an idea that has the best of both worlds, which makes me reasonable and can meet the face. This is very useful.
Later, my husband and I never quarreled again. Our marriage has been kept constant and we live happily.
37-degree marriage is the most stable and lasting
In marriage, everyone has his own personality and temper, which is often the fuse of marital conflict. In a survey, men gave 7 points to their satisfaction with marriage, while women only gave 2 points, which is the "temperature difference" in marriage. So try to measure your marriage temperature.
The following is the "marriage thermometer" designed by American psychology experts. You may compare it with your own score.
Test standard: choose from each question according to A, B and C, and calculate your score.
A. 1 point for never or rarely occurring
B. 2 points for occasional occurrence
C. 3 points for frequent occurrence
Test topic:
1. A small dispute suddenly turned into a big one, and they cursed each other fiercely, turning out old accounts.
2. My lover will ignore my opinions, feelings and needs.
3. My words or actions are often considered malicious by my partner.
4. When there are problems that need to be solved, we always seem to take a hostile position.
5. I can't naturally tell my partner what I really think and feel.
6. I often fantasize about what it would be like to change a lover?
7. I feel lonely in my marriage.
8. When we quarrel, there is always one party who is unwilling to talk again and starts to escape or leave the scene.
Answer analysis:
The total score is 8 to 12 points, indicating that your marriage temperature is relatively stable, harmonious and happy.
The total score is 13 to 17 points, indicating that your marriage lights up and needs careful care.
A total score of more than 18 points indicates that your marriage is in crisis and needs to be improved.
(Intern editor: Lai Jiaxing)
