Can't stand emotional betrayal, but after three years of divorce, I fell in love with a married man who is two years younger than me

"I am a divorced woman, and I cannot accept betrayal, I can only accept that one-on-one relationship. I have been divorced for three years!"! I talked about it once in the middle, and then I left because of his betrayal. Now I know a man who is two years younger than me. He loves me very much and is willing to do anything for me. We have been together for three months!

No matter what, he followed me and began to be with him. I didn't put too much emotion into it, but I now feel that I have gradually fallen in love with him, but he has a family. Although they have been divorced for nearly two years, they have a child, and I don't want their child to have a complete family. I don't even want him to divorce because of me, so I chose to break up. "He cried so badly that he knelt down and begged me not to leave. He picked up the glass and hurt the handle, which made my heart ache and almost softened!"!

"However, I was still ruthless and didn't pay attention to him. Last night, he came to me again. He hadn't eaten for a day and a night, and still had a fever. He begged me not to let him go. I said you could not leave, so I would go. I said to separate for a period of time to calm each other down. I am very tired now. My idea is that time can prove everything, and I don't want him to go for a divorce because of me. However, I really feel very painful and uncomfortable now,", Am I doing this right or not?

reply:

In the face of emotional betrayal, everyone should learn to be calm and indifferent, and understand how to refuse to accept infection. What you are doing now, I wonder if it's intentional retaliation, or a compulsion driven by true love?

Since you know that the other person is not a free person, why do you let yourself fly into the fire? You know, he is not qualified to pursue you, and you are not qualified to love him. Even if he is getting divorced, you still need to wait until all the dust settles down on him. With such a rush, do you think this is an expression of emotion in a rational state? So before that, all you need to do is clean up and get rid of the relationship with the other person quickly.

No matter how this man treats you and adopts extreme methods, please do not abuse kindness, because your mutual fulfillment will inevitably be based on the pain of others. Don't talk about feelings, especially with married men. It's easy to hurt yourself. If you really don't want to hurt yourself or more people, please stop losing in time, don't indulge your obsession, fully control your emotions and desires, and be able to defend yourself in order to stay away from temptation. Please don't continue to tangle and linger on the edge of danger. Many times, letting go of others is equivalent to letting go of yourself.

Emotion is a complex existence, and everyone's marriage can have problems. Although some people believe that marriage itself does have a side that goes against humanity, because human nature is full of inevitable greed, such as liking the new and hating the old, such as being unable to resist various temptations that may come upon us at any time. This is the weakness of human nature and also the instinct of human nature, but ultimately, people still need a calm and restraint, Know what you want, what you should want, and what you should stay away from. Don't let yourself make mistakes again and again, challenging the secular results, and it's easy to leave yourself scarred and even branded. Why is this necessary!