Post Date December, 02 2023
Many people may often have the following questions. I like a person of the opposite sex very much, and I am infatuated with him/her. I try my best to please him/her, and I always want to hold him/her in my hand. However, the other party is always cold and indifferent to himself. They don't hate us. They always sigh and say that we are good to him/her. The reason why he/she didn't choose us was quickly understood. It was that he/she had other people he/she liked. However, what makes us angry is that if the person treats him/her well, he/she can also give up; It's just that the person is not very good to him/her, but the person we like is infatuated and sad
We looked aside and couldn't do anything. He/she will only think of us when he/she is heartbroken, and need our temporary comfort. But after the comfort, the strength comes back, and the heartbreak stops bleeding, he/she will return to the original situation... No matter how much we love him/her, how much we want to give him/her everything, the other party is still unwilling to stay with us.
Isn't that ridiculous?
Clearly, there is an easy way to obtain happiness, but why is he/she unwilling to accept it? Don't let a person who loves him/her, but rather run after another person who doesn't love him/her in pain and sorrow.
There are similar plots in You from the Stars. Qian Songyi disdains Li Huijing, who loves him dearly. It is clear that the man is rich and handsome, and even obedient to her. He takes care of her mood, takes care of her face, and sympathizes with her loneliness and pain. He even wishes he could give everything to make her happy. But the woman will only find him when she is extremely lonely or unhappy. But once he calmed down or understood Du Minjun's difficulties, he left Huijing aside.
Huijing also had to wait silently for the day when the woman would find her good. However, infatuated people will never be lonely because there is another Liu Shimei who secretly loves Li Huijing in the play. She also likes Huijing to be miserable, but the man can't accept her.
Wen Shichu in "Legend of Zhen Huan" is the same example. Help Zhen Huan solve her problems around her, and even take the risk of killing the nine ethnic groups and taking the risk of her life. But at ordinary times, Zhen Huan doesn't care about him. She doesn't think of him when she wants to talk to someone, and she doesn't think of him when she needs to hug and warm up. Only when she is in trouble will she think of asking for help from Dr. Wen. However, he clearly knew that this was the case, but he stayed until the end without any regrets. As for Shen Mei Zhuang who loves him very much, Dr. Wen can only live up to her feelings
So, why on earth do people prefer to choose an object that we like but will hurt ourselves; Don't choose those who love us deeply? Why can't we adjust ourselves a little? Give up those who don't love us and accept those who love us very much. Isn't this a way for everyone to be happy and make sure that they can be happy?
Why?
Because the reason why love is charming is not that it can bring material returns, but that it allows us to feel the possibility of the future.
We feel the arrival of a new world by knowing another person, who looks more perfect and beautiful than us. We can finally step into another level from the life we have been accustomed to. It's like seeing the light at last through a long tunnel and discovering a new world with bright lights.
We fell in love with each other, felt the palpitation, and could feel that we saw everything new from the cycle of life. So we want to do everything we can to get close to this Taoyuan village, and even hope to integrate into it and find a new life in it. In short, by seeing each other and falling in love with each other, we feel our heart beat faster, and then want to go out of the comfort zone and enter the adventure journey.
Even though this love will bring pain, the feeling of blood makes us have a sense of existence, a sense of contribution, and a sense of inner strength. Pain makes us feel that we have indeed embarked on an adventure journey. Although it is hard and difficult along the way, we always dream that the destination can bear beautiful fruit. Falling in love with a person makes us feel the purpose and meaning of life, and hope to contribute a part of ourselves to make the other party laugh, happy and happy.
In other words, when we fall in love with someone, we feel that we can feel a totally different life through that person. For everything in the future, I began to be full of imagination. I will fantasize: what will happen if we are together? What kind of life will we have? Where can we go together? Our wedding, our future, our.... There is too much to imagine. This imagination alone has a great soothing effect on our emotions. Even if these things don't really happen in the end, the emotional satisfaction brought by the process is enough to produce addiction.
Scientists have done experiments to scan the user's brain while eating yogurt. It is not at the moment of eating that the highest degree of satisfaction is found, but at the time of tearing off the packaging aluminum foil on the top. When it comes to eating, the degree of satisfaction has actually decreased. In other words, the most enjoyable thing is the process, the imagination before the start. This is the driving force behind our consumption, emotional building and decision-making. Just falling in love with a person, just wanting to be with him/her, and just working for him/her, have greatly satisfied us. Even if there is pain in the process, the emotional satisfaction of doing something for him/her can balance the pain
