Post Date December, 03 2023
Qin and Ming have been together for nearly ten years from primary school to university, from friends to lovers, but less than a year after marriage, they feel the faint discord. They are not satisfied with the current situation of their husband and wife's life. Qin said that Ming was gentle, considerate, and performed very well, but it didn't last long; Ming said that his wife is very considerate of himself, because he can't make his wife more satisfied.
What is the reason? It turns out that Qin and Ming had sex very early before marriage. At that time, they were afraid of being found out, so they made an appointment every time to "make a quick decision". After a long time, it became a habit, and after marriage, it could not be changed. Qin wondered if her husband had a physical problem. If it went on like this, there might be cracks in her marriage.
Analysis of sexual psychology experts:
This is not a sexual physiological problem, but a typical sexual psychological problem. Traditionally, emphasis has been placed on avoiding premarital sex, but only from the requirements and explanations of morality and chastity. In fact, the harm of premarital sex is equally serious for boys and girls. When premarital sex occurs, the social impact of pregnancy on girls is well known. If not pregnant, it should be said that premarital sex is far more harmful to men's sexual psychology than to women's sexual physiology.
Because when premarital sex occurs, both parties, especially men, are often nervous, and they will finish it psychologically as soon as possible for fear of being discovered. For a long time, men will form a "complete as soon as possible" sexual psychological conditioning in the brain. So even if we get married, this conditioned reflex still exists.
The quality of husband and wife's life is not high, and the man will mistakenly think that he has lost interest in the other party psychologically, and will often seek extramarital sexual stimulation from the aspect of novelty seeking, which is what we usually call extramarital affairs. Then, the man will fall into a new vicious circle of "completing as soon as possible" under the unsafe conditions of extramarital affairs. This is what we usually say: "This man has bad quality and can't grow with anyone". Such cases account for a large proportion of young couples.
Sexual physiology expert guidance:
1. After both parties understand the cause of sexual dysfunction caused by premarital sexual behavior from the perspective of sexual psychology, they should consciously start with reducing the frequency of life of the couple and get rid of the previously established bad sexual psychological model.
2. When creating a new sexual psychological model, couples start from being lovers and first lovers, review their love history and visit the way of love. Then in a safe and warm family atmosphere, both parties start from scratch and fully enjoy the beauty of life.
3. In particular, the wife should dress herself as carefully as she did when she was in love, fully mobilize and cultivate her husband's freshness towards herself.
4. In future husband and wife life, the wife should deliberately maintain a sense of distance from her husband, and must not "respond to any request", so that the husband can continue to strengthen new sexual psychological and physiological signals.
