The husband arranged for the mistress to stay at the opposite door for the convenience of cheating

My husband and I got to know each other on a blind date. At the same time, his mother and my little aunt were classmates, and his grandmother's house and my grandmother were neighbors. Through his little aunt, we got to know each other on a blind date. It turned out that we were junior high school students. After three months of introduction, we got a marriage certificate at the urging of his parents. After receiving the certificate, he went to work in other places, usually calling me.

Another year later, we held a formal wedding ceremony. This year, we didn't get along well. We always quarreled. He always divorced when he quarreled. At that time, I didn't feel safe. When we got along, I still felt that he was casual in the relationship between men and women. Considering that we had obtained a marriage certificate, we had to live hard. After marriage, he went to work in other places and returned home a few days a month.

After two years, in the third year, I became pregnant and gave birth to a girl. When the child was 10 months old, he transferred his job back to his hometown through a relationship, so he went home every day. However, our relationship was even worse at this time, with arguments all day long. He often mentioned divorce, otherwise he wouldn't do any housework or help me take care of the children.

After a year of arguing, he began to have an affair outside. The first time was two years ago, he talked to an unmarried little girl from their company all day, and they even went to the park and had dinner together. When I found out that I was trying to persuade him, he argued with me and said he wouldn't let me take care of him. Later, I found out that his phone communication records showed that he had frequent contact with that girl, and I noticed that it was a bit too much, I took the initiative to contact that girl and indicated my identity. That girl may have also felt something and became good friends with me, so I stopped contacting him.

After finally resolving his extramarital affair, I have been taking the job title again and I am very busy. I have to work during the day and go home at night to do housework and take care of the children, while he does nothing.

A year ago, he fell in love with his classmate's former girlfriend again. The two of them had frequent text messages and even talked about topics related to marital life. I was very angry and made a scene, so I ran away from home and stayed at my classmate's house. Not long after, my brother came forward to talk to him and warned him that if he continued to contact that woman, he would ask me to divorce him. He promised in front of my brother that he would never get along with that woman again, so I went home with him.

I started busy with exams, so I stopped paying attention to his and that woman's affairs. After the exam, we kept arguing about family matters. He said I was not feminine and that I was too strong, making me useless.

At the end of last year, there was a tenant living in my house. At that time, his project was in short supply, so he took the initiative to talk to the female tenant and asked her brother to help him with the work. At first, I thought all of this was normal, but once, while we were on vacation, the female tenant called him and I heard him speak in a very different tone, as if they were very familiar. I questioned him and he perfunctorily said that he was talking to the female tenant about her brother's work.

Since then, I began to pay attention to his and the female tenant's every move. One night, I caught him and the female tenant doing that in my car. I was very angry and quarreled with him and his mother. Shortly after, the female tenant moved out of my house, and I thought they were completely cut off.

Two months have passed, and by chance, I secretly looked at his phone and was surprised to find that they had been in contact and were still renting out. I knew the seriousness of the situation, but this time I pretended not to know anything.

What made me angry was still ahead. After another month, my husband secretly let that woman live back in my house and even let him and I live on the same floor. We still live face-to-face. I felt very uncomfortable in my heart, so I talked to him and asked him not to let the woman's brother work for him, and even let the woman move out, but he didn't agree either. I argued with him and he threatened me not to go home.

Afterwards, he ran into the female tenant's house, and my daughter said that Dad "has two homes in my house". I learned from their text messages that he also told the woman that I was not good with him, he didn't want to talk to me, our marriage life was very painful, he wanted to divorce me, and so on.

I am very confused now and feel very weak. I have tried to catch and mess with him a few times, but he is very cunning and hardly gives me this opportunity. A classmate told me that I cannot initiate a divorce proposal. If I do, I will be very passive. Therefore, I never dared to speak up, and he never mentioned divorce to me again from beginning to end.

I am very lonely now. I have been living with my daughter since I came home all day. Although he comes home every day, his heart is not at home. Since being with that woman, he has rarely lived a married life with me.

In the past few days, there have been some new situations for the two of them. The woman brought back a man who lives in my house and says it's her husband, preparing to get married. I was secretly happy and thought that she would never bother my husband again. So I told my husband that all the girls in the family have a husband, so don't live in my house and let them move out. However, my husband disagreed, saying they don't have a place to live now, Let them stay here for another period of time.

After this, my husband seems to be much more normal and has treated me and my children much better. However, I couldn't be happy at all. It turned out that during this time, the woman and her boyfriend were deliberately making loud noises while living together, which caused us to hear them all in the yard. My husband not only didn't dislike them, but also seemed quite interested. After listening for a long time, he also said that the woman's bed calling voice was very pleasant and she was good at making love. He also said that they used to be "forced" together before, and I was almost furious after hearing this.

Now he has "secretly fallen in love" with that woman again, "it's necessary", and that woman has provoked me by saying that she wants to marry that man as well as be with my husband. These days, my husband has openly taken that woman out of town to play. I don't even know what he thinks, what kind of world this world is! What should I do myself? The child is still so young, and I don't want the child to be hurt, lost and in pain!

Reply:

Freedom of marriage, equality between men and women, and mutual loyalty and respect are all principles of China's marriage law. The Civil Procedure Law also stipulates that both the plaintiff and the defendant enjoy equal rights and obligations. Therefore, there is nothing to say that if you want to divorce and file a lawsuit, you should not take the initiative, which seems to be at a disadvantage. As long as you have evidence to prove that the marital relationship has indeed broken down, you can resort to legal action to dissolve your marriage.

Before, he often argued with you about divorce when he didn't have an affair. It was a marriage that came from your "blind date", and there were not many relationships. Now that he had an affair, he didn't mention divorce at all, nor was he waiting for you to divorce. This is because he overestimates that you have no way to deal with him. Otherwise, he wouldn't arrogantly arrange the third child to your house, live on the same floor as you, or even live across from you, I plan to live my own "one wife and one concubine" life. As for what he said about the 'third bed incident', it is even more shameful.

He acts as he pleases and only bullies your incompetence and weakness. According to the law, as long as one spouse illegally cohabits with other members of the opposite sex in the name of husband and wife during the marriage, it is sufficient to determine their fault. I think they all live in your building with dignity. Isn't it difficult to obtain evidence in this regard?! Besides, I believe your building is definitely not inhabited by your two families, so why not seek other residents to prove it for you?! Why don't you use a good legal net to protect yourself when they are so "trapped"?!

Anyway, you should have a strong sense of confidence in your heart. Your biggest support is law and morality. You are his legitimate wife, and defending your legitimate rights and interests is legitimate. Why are you afraid of tigers and wolves before and after? Do you know that it is your repeated patience and submission that has fueled your husband's infidelity and made the third person dare to "go back home" after moving out, Even shamelessly challenging you with 'bed affairs'! Don't feel unfair in this world, the problem is that you also have to stand up bravely! Are you still silent about such things and counting on others to bring justice to you?!

(Intern Editor: Lai Jiaxing)