Post Date December, 02 2023
My boyfriend and I have been in love for two years. We met through my mother's introduction. The relationship between our two families is very good. The father of both sides was a colleague. After retirement, he has been communicating with each other. The relationship between my boyfriend and I was developing very smoothly, and we all ran to get married. Unexpectedly, my father and his father got very stiff because of some things. After my father came back, he asked me to withdraw from his boyfriend and said he would cut off contact with their family. At first, I thought my father was just angry and didn't take it seriously.
Until that day, I received a call from my boyfriend. I haven't talked to him yet. My father saw it and broke my mobile phone. After yelling at me, he ran to the bank and took out the 100000 yuan engagement gift he gave to our family in the first year, and asked me to return it to his home. My mother didn't agree. "The grudges between adults don't matter what happens to children.". As soon as my mother's voice fell, my father roared back out of control. I don't know the origin of it at all. I feel particularly aggrieved when it comes to my boyfriend and me. I chased my mother for half a month before she told me. The two fathers wanted to do business together. My father invested money. His father found a manufacturer that had problems with its products. His father bought cheap goods for the sake of small bargains. As a result, their voice and reputation were damaged.
His father not only didn't admit his mistake, but also said that for the sake of business profits, he refused to take this responsibility. As a result, the two people got into a bad row. His father suspected that the man's father had a problem, worried that his boyfriend would behave like his father in the future, and hurt me. Because of his father's reason, my father directly shackled his boyfriend and didn't agree with me to marry such a family with a bad style. Fortunately, the mother is rational and thinks that the matter of her parents should not involve the children.
Later, our boyfriend's family invited us to dinner and said that we wanted to solve the contradiction and not delay our marriage. His father also reflected on himself and admitted his mistakes to my father. But my father was ungrateful and stubborn. He could not listen to persuasion at all. He also threw the gift money that day to the other party. In front of the two families, pointed at my nose and scolded: "If you want to marry them, never step on our family". My boyfriend was very helpless to analyze with me. Now I have only two choices, either to choose him or to choose my parents. It's up to me. How should I choose? I think it's very difficult. My father's character has always been strong. Who can help me solve it?
Reply from the consultant:
Hello. Your father and the man's father are good teammates and friends from the beginning. If the other side did not touch your father's bottom line, he could not be so angry with him. As the father of his daughter, his first thought was that the nature of his father would be directly inherited to his son, so he would rather be a bad man to break up the marriage for the sake of his daughter's happiness than let his daughter fall into such a family with bad character. Father's practice is a little extreme, and a lot of it is in anger. After all, being betrayed by a good friend is unacceptable in the deepest part of my heart.
Personally, since the matter has become so rigid, it is impossible to say that the two old people are forced to make up. No matter how much the father does, he is also thinking about the happiness of his daughter. You should be clear about this. Don't hate the father. In addition, you and your boyfriend should be psychologically clear, and the development of your love should not be affected by conflicts. Someone once said that marriage is a "betrayal" of your father, because marriage means your independence and no longer rely on your parents.
So, as the children of two families, we should strengthen our position, don't confront the parents directly, learn to adapt to circumstances, and prove your happiness with strength. We believe that time is a good medicine, and will slowly heal the injured heart. I wish you a happy life.
