Post Date December, 03 2023
Many people work hard to get a beautiful woman, but the love often can't last. Many men feel puzzled that they are very good to their girlfriend and pay a lot. Why can't they get good results, and finally end up breaking up. In fact, they just ignored the critical period of 14 days before love.
Love without regret
Many people's first love ends in failure. People often learn the way to love from their lovelorn love. However, when all is gone, the opposite sex they really like regrets for life because of their clumsy way. Psychologists have made detailed scientific research on the way of love and found that if two people fall in love, they can approach their happiness step by step if they follow the laws of psychology.
Try to get closer
American psychologists once conducted a survey of lovers in love, and found that the highest proportion of successful couples who finally got married were those who were close to each other when they were in love. For example, if you live in a close place, work in the same unit, or work in the same office building, participate in the same club activities, etc., you will have a lot of contact opportunities between the two people.
Not only that, psychologists also conducted a psychological experiment to show college students the photos of A and B, whose personal charm is almost the same. However, the frequency of the photos is A: B=2:1, that is to say, the photos of A are mainly displayed. The result of the experiment is that most students are more interested in A, in fact, the subjects have never seen A and B, but think A is more attractive to them than B.
More contact produces good feeling
Both men and women will inevitably be on guard when they meet for the first time. After meeting several times, they will have a basic understanding of each other. Their guard will become less and less, and gradually turn into a good feeling. The reason why A is more attractive than B is that frequent displays eliminate people's vigilance psychology, which is a vivid manifestation of vigilance and good feeling. Therefore, if you are sure that the person you like is the other party, you should try your best to get close to the other party. Of course, if you make a bad first impression on the other party, the closer you get to the other party, the worse it will be. For example, judging from the appearance, it is to take 100 photos of Guo Degang and 1 photo of Takeshi Kaneshiro. In any case, people always choose the latter as the attractive object.
Consistent and lasting values
It's not enough just to fight. American psychologist Yukhum made such a survey. He investigated the behavior of choosing friends of 30 first-year college students who were new to the university and moved into new dormitories. Yukam found that after staying for a week, the force of physical proximity is very strong, and students often choose friends from neighboring dormitories. Two weeks later, Yukum found that the two people who became friends were more consistent in their values. This survey proves that even if the initial vigilance is eliminated, the relationship between people will not last long without some degree of empathy.
Try to find common ground
Two important conditions for lovers to get along in love are: physical proximity within the first two weeks; After two weeks, we need to pay attention to the spiritual proximity and resonance. Within two weeks of being close to each other, every appointment, chat and meeting is not only about "self display", but also about carefully collecting each other's useful information, such as birthday, preferences, interests, ideals, etc., and then finding the similarities with yourself.
