Post Date December, 03 2023
Promises that are too absolute are often unrealistic, and this is also true in love. Some sweet words can satisfy our hearts, which is also an indispensable factor in love. But if you treat it as truth, then you are walking into a blind spot.
Blind spot 1: Regardless, you must love me for a lifetime.
The biggest difference between sentimentality and heartlessness is that only sentimentality can believe that love can last a lifetime. Many passionate women are prone to thinking and doing the same. So when their feelings are hit by a wall, they will cry out due to the huge psychological contrast. Unconsciously adding another 'no matter' before 'you want to love me for a lifetime', then the crisis of marriage and relationship arises. Just think, marriage and emotions are supposed to be matters for two people. Can you just "ignore" the problem?
Blind spot 2: It's okay, he won't lie to me.
Also, amorous women are more likely to become superstitious about a person than ordinary women. She believes that as long as it is the person she loves, she should believe everything in her. Even if there are many loopholes in front of her, she is unwilling to believe and face them. She always measures them based on her own sentimentality, thinking that I love him so much and never deceive him, and he will definitely not deceive me.
However, in fact, marriage is not like this. No matter how good it is, there is no couple who do not cheat. Perhaps cheating is helpless, perhaps it is kindness.
Blind spot 3: Fool, I already belong to you all.
In fact, it is very terrifying for a woman to truly fall in love. This terrifying feeling is not only for men, but also for herself. She is willing to be completely, hysterical, unreserved, and selfless, leaving no room for herself. She will tell you in detail how many times she has been in a relationship, how many times she has divided hands, and how much savings she has, how much of which has been given to her parents and how much has been lent to friends. There are all kinds of them, which can be described by a sentence they often say on their lips, which is: Fool, I already belong to you all.
Blind spot 4: Persist, he's just testing me.
Let me tell you another story: there is a senior girl named Xiao who fell in love with her boyfriend for three years in college. When she graduated, she received a text message from her intern boyfriend. This text message was actually accidentally sent to her phone by her boyfriend. He was supposed to send it to another girl introduced by her family and preparing to get married. Perhaps such a text message, replaced by another girl, will definitely cause a stir or become a reason to directly find a boyfriend's home. However, the passionate Xiao, who was in the midst of immense happiness and satisfaction, did not attract attention. Instead, he confidently believed that "he was just testing me" and missed the best opportunity to save love and compete with others.
Anyway, marriage is absolutely impossible without deception. People who have a slight understanding of marriage will be vaccinated early in this regard.
Blind spot 5: Don't worry, as long as I have you, I don't want anything.
In real life, there are some girls who are casual and think of love as pure and romantic. They mistakenly believe that love is the pursuit of pure abandonment of all worldly distractions and staying together, so they constantly tell their boyfriends in words and actions: "Don't worry, as long as I have you, I don't want anything!" Men were naturally moved and couldn't help but beg.
But it won't be long before they understand: how painful it is to fall in love hungry? How tiring is it to move from one place to another to rent a house? But when they woke up, it seemed that everything was too late because they missed the opportunity to make choices and gave up a crucial right in their lives due to ignorance and sentimentality on one hand, which was the right to make choices about the survival index of love.
Blind spot 6: Oh my goodness, he has such a masculine temper when he gets angry.
There was once a woman who asked me for help. She said, 'I never understand why he wants to divorce me. I love him so much and never let him do any housework. Even when he scolds me, I feel that he is so manly... I really don't know where I am doing well.'.
If love is too deep, it is not love. Love can make a person happy for a lifetime, or it can make a person completely lose themselves in a short period of time. Too much self will lead to the loss of love, and losing oneself will also lead to the loss of love. The reality is so cruel. If you completely give, the other party will choose to disappoint if they cannot bear it.
Blind spot 7: Baby, you should be all mine.
There are many ways to be passionate, one of which is to be domineering and possessive. However, in the perspective of Chinese people, it may be better for a man to be domineering in love. If he becomes a woman, it always seems unreasonable, and it is even inevitable that he will not be regarded as a madman.
In the Chinese concept, parents conceive in October, and after more than a decade of hard work, raise their son to adulthood. Why is it that once they grow up, they all belong to her alone? This is equivalent to love standing on the opposite side of family affection. Even if it's not because of possessiveness, are there still few examples in China where couples get married due to their parents, argue due to their parents, or divorce due to their parents? Both parents are already invisible third parties in their children's marriage.
