Post Date December, 03 2023
At the beginning of the story, he said he liked me, and I happened to be in a period of lack of love. He has a girlfriend, so he just wants to simply like me for being nice to me, and immediately stops when I refuse his offer.
"I spent all my tears and emotions in my marriage because of having a child and the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I felt extremely lacking in love, so I finally hugged him in hesitation.".
Everything at the beginning was really beautiful, probably because I still had feelings for him more or less, so every day was so warm and sweet. He's really very kind to me, and no matter what they do together, they feel very in tune. I told him that maybe I just like the feeling of being liked, but as he gradually entered my heart, I began to attach more and more to him, like him more and become fascinated with him. So, I began to hope that he only belonged to me, and I forgot that at first I just wanted a hug.
When we were together for almost a year, I seriously discussed the future with him. In fact, he seriously told me before that if he were single now, he would not hesitate to marry me. My state at that time was just that it was great for two people to be together, so I didn't go on saying anything more. But gradually, I began to think about the future. On the one hand, it may be that the relationship really reached that depth, on the other hand, my marriage also reached a low point at that time.
His answer somewhat disappointed me, but I can also understand that on the one hand, he and his girlfriend have entered the preparatory stage, which is indeed difficult to speak at this time. On the other hand, we actually have a considerable gap, including age, economic conditions, and so on. I think this is also a practical pressure. He often tells me that marriage is a very realistic thing, and the reality between us is cold.
Cyanine:
Sweet love like cotton candy is what women most yearn for. If it can be met, it is a good relationship that cannot be missed. However, if you are already in a marriage relationship, the cotton candy may eventually become a bubble or go bad.
From your experience, the sweetness of the time made up for the lack of happiness in your original marriage. At that time, you just wanted a shallow hug and comfort. Human emotions are rich and developing. After taking a bite of marshmallow, you feel the taste wonderful. Can't help but want to possess each other. Having such an idea indicates that you have already fallen in love with the other person.
But in this relationship, you seem to ignore the other person's thoughts. Why does the other party want to treat you simply when they have a girlfriend? What is the intrinsic motivation behind his approach? From your statement, it seems that he only wants to maintain your "relationship", but does not want to be responsible for the actual behavior.
