Post Date December, 03 2023
Recently, I have been very anxious and inexplicably irritable, almost on the verge of depression, always unable to let go of this matter. Thinking of this incident, I couldn't sleep in the middle of the night.
The incident happened last year when my husband went to Macau to discuss a project on the recommendation of a friend. After three days of discussion, everything went smoothly. After the project was negotiated, the client's boss warmly invited his husband to have a meal together. After all, this is a gesture of goodwill from someone else, a project worth tens of millions, and having a meal together can bring us closer to our clients. However, after dinner, my husband wants to leave, but the boss over there has no intention of taking him to the casino to have fun. Then they went to the casino, and their husband had good luck and won a lot after playing for a few hours. But as soon as she won the money, she was targeted by the beautiful Heguan, who kept flirting with her husband. Due to his husband's dizziness and poor self-control, he finally took the Dutch official to the hotel.
I heard from a friend that the Dutch official is very beautiful, about 25 years old. He has double eyelids, big eyes, a oval face, and a good figure. He has a yellow wavy hairstyle that is adorable. I know my husband very well. He likes beautiful girls. Back then, I was also a beautiful woman who wanted to have a figure and a face. In a meeting, we both fell in love. Since giving birth to the baby, my figure has not recovered, there is a lot of belly fat, and my abdomen is not flat at all. So, I am very worried that he will transfer to another relationship.
Since the day they met, they have been in contact and have been calling non-stop. At the beginning, they deliberately avoided me and kept me informed by calling outside. Now, I dare to answer the phone in my study without any hesitation, often chatting happily and sometimes laughing loudly. My husband has very few friends of the opposite sex, and they are mostly work clients who rarely chat with others. I think their relationship is definitely not average. Sure enough, when he wasn't paying attention, I got his phone. Open the album and there are many photos of beautiful women, their clothes are very revealing.
Now, my whole body is about to collapse, and my heart is like a big stone under pressure. I have been feeling lethargic all day, constantly thinking: Have they had any sexual intercourse? Has he changed his mind? But I dare not ask him, perhaps due to his timidity, what if he asks for a divorce? However, I don't want to continue like this, my mood is particularly suppressed.
Reply from Weiqing Consultant:
From your description, I can feel your anxiety, irritability, sadness, and even despair. You really like your husband and care about all his behaviors, including contact and chatting with the opposite sex. A phone call can exacerbate your suspicion and make you restless. The main reason may be that your age is gradually increasing, you are not as beautiful as before, and you are not as confident as before. At the same time, you dare not ask him, afraid that the outcome will develop in a bad direction, and afraid that he will propose a divorce. But the problem is, he did the wrong thing, and it's not you who did the wrong thing. Why are you afraid?
I want to ask, how is your current relationship? Is there any difference compared to last year? If this continues like this, will you be neurotic all day, like a patient, and make your family worse? It's not good for yourself and your family, I'm afraid it's not the result you want.
In fact, there are two options in front of you. The first one is to ask him, and he confesses his mistake. His attitude is sincere, and he has a sense of repentance. You can establish a mutual trust and security relationship with him again, and start a new life. Another way is that if you don't question him and let him continue to communicate with others, while living with you and enjoying an extramarital affair, this should not be the result you want.
