Post Date December, 02 2023
Q: I have been in love with my boyfriend for two years and have been away from home. Recently, he wants me to work in his city and prepare for cohabitation. My boyfriend thinks this is a very common thing, but I don't think it's good. Maybe men and women have different ideas! I don't know how women nowadays view this matter. Should women cohabit before marriage?
Answer: It is still common in society to cohabit before marriage. This is also possible if you have a stable relationship with your boyfriend and have plans to get married. However, depending on your actual situation, it's important to see if your boyfriend really intends to go with you for a long time or just for sex.
Survey: Should cohabitation be or not
Although unmarried cohabitation has become a common phenomenon in contemporary society, the view of cohabitation has always been supported and opposed. A marriage website recently conducted a survey through an online questionnaire and found that 77.78% of men said "like" about cohabitation, while only 44.01% of women said "like". In other words, more than half of women do not like cohabitation before marriage.
Pro: Before marriage, cohabitation also requires engagement
Citizen Miss Hao: It's better to get engaged before cohabiting before marriage. There's a bit of security. Also, before cohabiting, make sure that living together is for the purpose of marriage, not just to save rent. But personally, I think trial marriage is very important. I would rather cohabit first than get married hastily! Netizen "Leona cong": The purpose of cohabitation before marriage is to try marriage, which is a responsible practice for both parties. Do you know if two people can get a piece of food after living together? Can we chat together? Are you snoring loudly? Don't get married if it's not appropriate. After all, getting divorced once is equivalent to breaking a property!
Opposition: premarital cohabitation is too insecure
Citizen Mr. Zhang: Living together is like trying on clothes. If you feel that it's not suitable and there are no other constraints, you can say no, you won't buy. But people are not clothes! Premarital cohabitation is too insecure. After a long time together, women will only get deeper and deeper, while men will only become less and less concerned. For men, cohabitation can not only enjoy the rights of marriage, but also not bear the responsibility of marriage. Netizen "Niusquat University - Department of Traditional Chinese Medicine": Women age faster than men. At 30 years old, for a man, it is the beginning of career and love. The stage of spouse selection can be delayed, but for a woman, it is a stage of aging and even reproductive difficulties in various functions. If the man does not plan to marry or give up on the woman at this time, the woman will face even more severe mate selection difficulties.
Expert: It's best not to cohabit if you have an irrational personality
Emotional experts have pointed out that cohabitation can be used to some extent as a "observation period" to transition, but the disadvantages are also apparent. Often, men use the guise of "trial marriage" to cover their escape from responsibility. For this reason, only a group of people who have deep feelings, rational and optimistic personalities, independent personalities and abilities, and can bear the consequences of cohabitation are suitable for cohabitation and trial marriage.
Precautions for cohabitation
"Getting killed" (accidental pregnancy) and excessive financial relationships can easily lead to deteriorating cohabitation relationships. Once both men and women choose to cohabit, they should quickly understand whether they are suitable for marital life during this period to avoid wasting their emotional input and opportunity costs; If a discrepancy is found, ruthlessly withdrawing as soon as possible is also a relatively "compromise" solution. In order to avoid accidental pregnancy, cohabiting men and women must take protective measures when having sex, so don't forget that Durex loves to wear condoms boldly to add a protective film to your relationship.
